Relationships In The Movie Gubra

Gubra is a movie in which has a lot of different and unique relationship. There is this particular relationship that we find interesting, which is the relationship between Orked and her husband, Arif. Relationship itself is the way in which two or more people or things are connected. As the relationship goes, the people who are involved in it can choose to develop it or terminate it. Conflict is the main reason people terminate their relationship. Lies is a one out of many conflict that happens in most relationship. Lie is the deliberate presentation of information you know not to be true or when you bend the facts to serve you personally. The cost (of conflict) is greater than the benefit to the other side, leading to losing trust to the other …show more content…
In the beginning of the movie, Orked and Arif have a harmonic relationship. There’s a scene in which they’re taking a bath together, having fun and laughing. It shows that they’re happy with their relationship. Even when Orked meets her old friend Alan, who is Orked’s ex's brother, Arif doesn’t seemed to be ashamed to admit that Orked is his wife. At this point of the relationship, Arif and Orked have reached the bonding stage of the relationship stages. They are formalizing their relationship through marriage. Both look so incredibly happy and harmonious. This means there is an existence of dialectical tension in the relationship. Dialectical tension is a tension that occurs when opposing goal meet. In the movie there are 3 elements of the dialectical tension that can be seen. First there is a balance between connection with the partner and the autonomy of having their own identity. Both Orked and Arif are …show more content…
She felt betrayed. This causes the relationship to drop to the seventh stage, which is the circumscribing stage. In the circumscribing stage, the communication between the people involved dropped. The breadth (the quantity of topics being discussed) and the depth (how central the topics being discussed with the other person are to your self-concept) is almost non-existence in the conversation and prefer silence. This shows in the movie where Orked doesn't want to talk to Arif, which includes her moving out of bed and sleep in the sofa. This also shows that stage eight, the stagnating is building. And then, when Orked decide to move away from the house, she is trying to avoid Arif, which means stage 8, is occurring. In this stage, the victim is also trying to avoid any physical contact. When Arif is trying to convince Orked to stay and stop packing her close, he tries to hug her. Orked repeatedly push him away because she feels disgusted. However, she didn’t leave. Arif and Orked then visit Latifah’s office where Orked forces Arif to admit that Latifah is nothing but a piece of meat to him. After that, Orked called Alan to pick her up and accompany her to her family’s house because she no longer wants to live with Arif. In several occasions, Arif begged Orked to stay with him, in which Orked always says no. Orked has lost her trust in Arif that she doesn’t even consider staying with him anymore. Orked decided to end the