Boys Poem By Sandra Cisneros Analysis

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Growing up in a Mexican household we have been taught to be pure. Our parents always told us that we should not get pregnant or give ourselves to any man that comes into our life. We as the latino community are left with questions but we were too ashamed or scared to ask them, which led to many pregnant teens and abusive relationships. B. V Olguin in the poem “Boys’ and Sandra Cisneros in her essay “Guadalupe the Sex Goddess” used their teen experiences to show us sexuality within their culture. Teens’ minds start wandering during puberty, like why is hair growing or why are we bleeding from “down there?” We are also ashamed of our body. During puberty most women and men become self conscious about their body because others have bigger breast …show more content…
We are left with this vagueness of our own body parts because we are not grown or married. We are not aware that there would be a change during puberty because our parents do not know how to explain it without bringing sex into the conversation. The sex talks becomes awkward for most teens, but it should not because it 's the most important for teens to be aware of this changes. In the poem “Boys” we see this change within the boxers. They wonder why others have hair under there and they are just “hairless , curious”(5) because their puberty stage is slower than the rest. We are left with so much vagueness on these stages and even on “what went on down there.” (cisneros, 43) We see both characters being confused on their puberty stage and body parts because latinos do not have the privilege of a sex talk or class. Most latinos are raised to just use those parts to reproduce but not know how to actually control those hormones. Teens then end up becoming “Hoes” or “Manwhores” because they mess around with a lot of people. Especially when women and men show off their bodies they are critiqued for being to …show more content…
Both growing up in a Latino community impacted their writing toward sexuality and gender because of the lack of recourses. Latino communities lack the sexual education because most middle schools are low funded and parents do not have the time to teach their kids due to long working days. This matters because it increases the pregnancy rates in teens and men are more prone to get sexual transmited diseases. We clearly see an unbalanced in gender punishment for not having sex education , but not only in education do we see this unbalanced. Women are pressured by society more than men because of their sexual life. Men are encouraged to have sex with multiple ladies because it makes him more manly, while women are shamed for having sex for pleasure. In criticisms we see both genders getting shamed but we see more of the female shaming than men. Women are called names more than men, for example “slut” and “whore” , but men we only hear “manwhore”. This matters because women are shamed for activities that men lead them to do or even force them to do. Men actions are not revealed because we do live in a patriarchal society so our eyes are shut when men do something harmful. Puberty, Shamaness and Church go hand in hand because without the church we would not have this critical society. Also, without this religion we would be more clear on our sexual orientation

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