Positive Effects Of Having Divorced Parents

Growing up throughout elementary school, I always knew my parents would eventually get a divorce. I had always known my parents were going to get a divorce. When the day came at the beginning of sixth grade, my parents sat me down and told me that they were getting a divorce. At the time, I didn’t really know what to expect, but I didn’t let it bother me. Going throughout middle school and high school, having divorced parents disrupted my plans, gave me 2 homes, and I went down a path that I would have not suggested as a growing teen. I was not worried, because I had many friends whose parents were already divorced, and many who had multiple step brothers and sisters in new blended families. According to Andrew Cherlin “not all divorces have …show more content…
I was to live with my mother primarily, and go to my father’s house every other weekend and every Tuesday. If I didn’t follow that schedule, civil and legal arguments were to arise. I was not allowed to see my dad while spending time with my mother and vice versa. I just a child, had felt like a bone being fought over by two dogs. I honestly didn’t care about the schedule at first, I was just glad I didn’t have to wake up with my parents fighting every single morning. The only negative outcome is when I lived with my father I was not allowed to leave the house to be with my friends no matter the occasion, His reason was that “our time together is valuable”. With saying, I missed countless birthday parties, home football games, and dances, throughout my whole school career. Now as a college student I still abide by the court appointed schedule to keep things civil. According to Kathleen Corcoran “A child 's continued involvement with both of his or her parents allows for realistic and better balanced future relationships.” To this day, I am not allowed to leave my father’s house but occasionally I am aloud to leave to hang out with my …show more content…
I had spent 85 percent of my time with my mother after the divorce. So, all the normal roles fathers had, was put onto my mother. She had two roles to play. She had taught me how to drive, fish, and mow the lawn. I had relied on my mom to teach me everything. I was happy that my mother never remarried, because I did not want to call another man my step father. I personally think she is waiting to get remarried after I move out of the house. Since the day my parents got a divorce, it had a huge impact on how I grew up. I feel that everything would be completely different if my parents never got divorced. Growing up would have been simple without the worrying of trying to please each parent. I also feel like I had missed out on some much due to my father never letting me leave the house. In other terms, 50 percent of the weekends growing up I was stuck in my fathers. I constantly think back to how many more memories I would have if I could go out every other weekend. But I don’t let this bother me because there’s nothing I could do to change