Growing Up With Divorced Parents Essay

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I grew up with my parents and grandparents always being there for me, consequently I relied on them. At the age of eight my parents got a divorce which drastically changed my world. Since my parents were divorced I realized I couldn’t rely on them therefore, I had to think for my brother and I. Considering the situation I was in I had to mature faster.
When my parents first told my brother and I they were getting a divorce, we had to adapt to a different lifestyle. We were so used to going to stores as a family but that era was over. I had to learn how to manage seeing families together and not rage in jealousy because my family had broken apart and would never go back to the way it was. I knew from that point on, I had to be a strong individual for my little brother. Every action that I made reflected on him therefore my actions were well thought out. Before the age of
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Hearing or remembering those words haunted me however it motivated me to become a better person. I need to succeed to prove all those individuals that no matter if I came from divorced parents I didn’t use that as an excuse to do bad in school. I pushed myself as a little girl to keep going forward never to look back. I focused on all the negative remarks individuals would give me when I was thinking about giving up. They might have thought that just because my parents are not together I was going to become one of the statistics. Statistics have shown that children who undergo divorce go into gangs or do drugs to forget their problems. Darwin's evolutionary theory " Survival of the Fittest" states that in a situation only the strongest individuals or living creature continue to live while the weak ones die. Strong individuals or living creatures were able to adapt to a new environment which resulted in them

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