Personal Narrative: My Mother As A Western Parent

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Growing up I was raised by one parent which was my mother. She has four kids in total and she practically did everything on her own for us. For me specifically, I would describe her as a western parent. She wasn’t strict such as, I didn’t have to be home at a certain time or I didn’t have to make my bed up before I left for school. I knew what to do and what not to do. I knew not to get into the car with strangers. I knew not to disrespect my teachers in school. She was very supportive of our decisions and was proud of anything we were trying to accomplish on our own growing up. I’ll also describe her as a western parent because she asked how I felt. She asked if I was happy or sad and she wanted to know the reasons why. She knows I worked …show more content…
Its also in their mind, like every child is different and thinks different. How they were raised and who raised them of who they were around reflects in their later life. For example, I was raised by my mother and I was surrounded by my siblings. So I was around my siblings everyday and siblings do tend to get jealous of one another, I might have wanted something the other sibling may had. My mother always told us to share what we had if the other person didn’t have it, so by that I grew up giving and sharing to people who didn’t have things or they didn’t have much. She also told us that sharing was caring, by she telling me that I knew that if I done that, that it meant that I cared for others and that I wasn’t selfish. Me growing up without a father I know has affected me in my life. It made me think that I was unwanted and because of that I have a tendency of pushing people away that may try to get to know me. It’s like I have a guard up and I don’t want to let anyone in my personal life so I keep people at a distance from that. It is a lot of issues but that’s just issues that I’m going to have to learn to deal with. I can’t imagine if I was a orphan or a foster child. I know those kind of children have to feel really sad and have questions like “Why was I not wanted” or “Where are my biological …show more content…
Its nothing wrong but to me the child is their own individual person. So the parent on which is superior I think both are, Chinese and Western. They both want the best for their children, they don’t want to see them fail whether it’s homework, a sport, or learning how to play a new instrument. No matter how their parent raised them, each child decides whether they are going to be successful. For example, if they decide that they want to go to college they are going to study hard for the SATS and ACTS to get into their college of choice. If they want to make the basketball team, they are going to practice and practice until they think they are ready and good enough for the team. No one is perfect, so the parent cannot necessarily train the child at every point in their life, and tell them what to do or how to do something that the parent thinks is the “right way”, because mistakes are going to happen eventually. When the mistakes come it is the child’s choice of if they want to learn from it or

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