Kelsey Spearman
27 January 2015
English 101
Dr. R-B
The Necessary Bitterness to Make Love Sweet The Ancient Greeks believed that love exists in four parts. However, each kind of love was based on one important factor. An essential requirement for love would be the sacrifices, both large and small, that each partner submits to in order to preserve their relationship. One must dig deeper, past the superficial layers, to find the element of sacrifice. Time is one of the biggest, if not greatest sacrifice one could ever relinquish. As some may say “time is of the essence”, which holds true in many relationships. For example, my boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship and for the last year we have dealt with the hardships …show more content…
It usually occurs post-sacrifice with the person who feels responsible for the other having to have sacrificed something important. For example, I feel like one thing, apart from time, which I have sacrificed for him, is the way I live my life. I have adapted to his life as military personnel and have had to schedule my life around his. Though it is difficult, I do it and manage to continue to do it because it was something worth changing and adapting to for him. I know that for him he feels guilty about joining the military. There is this sense of abandonment that comes with being attached to someone in the military. I know that his personal burden of guilt resonates within the “leaving me behind” factor, however, this factor would remain the same had he not joined the military due to the fact that I am in college therefore simply just reversing the roles of the departed and one being left. I also understand that joining the military is his dream and as for me, sacrificing my idea of a perfect relationship and life is something I’ve chosen to do for him and ultimately myself. The interesting thing about guilt that comes from sacrificing an important element is that we have both become stronger individuals. As individuals in situations such as these, we, the general population of sacrificial love-birds, tend to give up a substantial amount of these elements; elements that make up who we are. When an individual …show more content…
Based on my relationship, my boyfriend and I believe that honesty, trust, commitment, communication, and faith are just a few common expectations we’d like each other to uphold. In a marriage, some examples could be putting their spouse before themselves or having to be patient with one another, especially in situations where it seems impossible. These morals help develop the overall concept of sacrifice in a relationship and how, even in times of hardships, there are also rewards. Rewards, in this context, can be in the form of personal and interpersonal growth and strength between those inside the relationship which can ultimately lead to a happy couple due to the sacrifices made by both partners. One could even argue that the greatest reward is love and knowing that said love prevails the hardships that accompany sacrifice. Challenges that both partners face test patience, strength (both logically and emotionally), and faith. Because of these challenges one would not accomplish anything when it came to
27 January 2015
English 101
Dr. R-B
The Necessary Bitterness to Make Love Sweet The Ancient Greeks believed that love exists in four parts. However, each kind of love was based on one important factor. An essential requirement for love would be the sacrifices, both large and small, that each partner submits to in order to preserve their relationship. One must dig deeper, past the superficial layers, to find the element of sacrifice. Time is one of the biggest, if not greatest sacrifice one could ever relinquish. As some may say “time is of the essence”, which holds true in many relationships. For example, my boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship and for the last year we have dealt with the hardships …show more content…
It usually occurs post-sacrifice with the person who feels responsible for the other having to have sacrificed something important. For example, I feel like one thing, apart from time, which I have sacrificed for him, is the way I live my life. I have adapted to his life as military personnel and have had to schedule my life around his. Though it is difficult, I do it and manage to continue to do it because it was something worth changing and adapting to for him. I know that for him he feels guilty about joining the military. There is this sense of abandonment that comes with being attached to someone in the military. I know that his personal burden of guilt resonates within the “leaving me behind” factor, however, this factor would remain the same had he not joined the military due to the fact that I am in college therefore simply just reversing the roles of the departed and one being left. I also understand that joining the military is his dream and as for me, sacrificing my idea of a perfect relationship and life is something I’ve chosen to do for him and ultimately myself. The interesting thing about guilt that comes from sacrificing an important element is that we have both become stronger individuals. As individuals in situations such as these, we, the general population of sacrificial love-birds, tend to give up a substantial amount of these elements; elements that make up who we are. When an individual …show more content…
Based on my relationship, my boyfriend and I believe that honesty, trust, commitment, communication, and faith are just a few common expectations we’d like each other to uphold. In a marriage, some examples could be putting their spouse before themselves or having to be patient with one another, especially in situations where it seems impossible. These morals help develop the overall concept of sacrifice in a relationship and how, even in times of hardships, there are also rewards. Rewards, in this context, can be in the form of personal and interpersonal growth and strength between those inside the relationship which can ultimately lead to a happy couple due to the sacrifices made by both partners. One could even argue that the greatest reward is love and knowing that said love prevails the hardships that accompany sacrifice. Challenges that both partners face test patience, strength (both logically and emotionally), and faith. Because of these challenges one would not accomplish anything when it came to