She fears that her daughter is not following proper etiquette. She was not being ladylike, and instead acts dishonorably, which verged on “slut” behavior. After this episode, Annie tries to stand up to her mother. Shortly after their fight, Annie asks for her own trunk. When she gets her own trunk, Annie mentions her mother’s control: “…I became frightened. For I could not be sure whether for the rest of my life I would be able to tell when it was really my mother and when it was really her shadow standing between me and the rest of the world.”(Kincaid, Annie John …show more content…
In the memoir, the reader sees that repeated moments from “Girl” and Annie John were autobiographical. According to Kincaid, an Anglophile mother controlled her home life growing up: “I was always being told I should be something, and then my whole upbringing was something I was not. It was English.” (Cudjoe 400). This Anglicized method toward upbringing manifests in strict gender roles. The piano lessons, Milton, and manners are extensions of this English identity. Especially for a girl, this forced identity focused on maintaining proper