Personal Narrative: Becoming A Mother

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Coming from a Mexican family and being a female is a bit difficult. It is difficult when you have family that is waiting for you to “grow up” to become a mother. Some family members belief this is still a norm for a female to get married, have children, and stay home to take care of the family. Just because some of the women in my family became mothers at a young age, I did not want to become a mother, at least not yet.

On (Not) Getting By in America by Barbara Ehrenreich, she wrote “Happily, though, my fears turn out to be entirely unwarranted: during a month of poverty and toil, no one recognizes my face or my name, which goes unnoticed and for the most part unuttered. In this parallel universe where my father never got of the mines and I never got through college, I am “baby,” “honey,” “blondie,” and, most
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School became my home that I needed to keep up. I worked full-time to attended college full-time and paid for all my school supplies. For some women in the family thought it was wrong for me to attending school. Did they think I was better than them, I do not know, but that was not my attention at all. More Mexican women need to attend colleges and universities. They should not fall into the pressure of being a wife so soon just because of our family traditions. Traditions are meant to be broken sometimes.

This tradition has changed with me. When I am ready to become a mother and wife it will be when I am ready and know that I will have a good job to support a family. Just because many female members that are younger than me has a family or children I do not want need to be like every one of them. I have stood my ground and have brushed off every negative comment I have received. In the end all that matters is my well-being and my happiness. Sorry not trying to follow the trend of being a

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