Gender Differences In Tortilla Sun

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In any type of relationship whether it be with a loved one, family or friends, it seems that an agreement between the pair or group is present. An agreement of this sort could be the same football team or favorite food for an instance. What ever the case these similarities are what can bring two or more people together. Yet when a type of disagreement happens and the pair or group don’t see eye to eye then this could cause a sort of tension between them. These tensions or differences are not always good and can leave some scars in a “relationship.” In the case of the main character from Confetti Girl, her and her father seem to have a bond of the chores they take responsibility of or the food they take turns making. Yet the main character doesn’t seem to fond of her English class, her father knows of this information and yet still decides to ask her about it anyways. While I don’t think he purposefully asked to cause tension in their father daughter relationship, that seemed to be the way that the daughter seemed to look at the situation, when in reality the father was asking out of concern for his …show more content…
Later on it is reveled that Izzy and her mother move a lot. For the benefit of one another. The novel Tortilla Sun states “We moved for all sorts of reasons: closer to the university for her, better school for me, quieter, prettier, bigger, smaller.” While this does seem like a good thing it was a reason for Izzy and her mother to have a quarrel. Izzy’s mother is going to go away for the summer to finish her studies, yet this causes Izzy to get angry since she knows she wont be able to go with her mother and instead have to spend her summer with her Nana. Finishing school is a great opportunity for her mother, Izzy sees it as a bad opportunity for her which causes tension to the point that Izzy ignores what her mother has to say at the end of paragraph

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