Gay Man Transition

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Gay man lives in an unhealthy environment where they lost their identity and try to be someone they’re not just to fit in with the rest “The first, and perhaps major, life transition in the lives of GBTs occurs when their homosexual desire becomes silent and they adopt a homosexuality identity. This usually takes place during adolescence and early adulthood” (Garcia Article). This explains the different stages that gay man goes through, during their early childhood, they try to act the manliest they can for people to not start questioning their sexuality. During this is also when a lot of man fall into depression because of how much bullying they get at school and from their own families. They constantly feel embarrassed by their own family

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