The situation defines my personality and many of my fears and is part of who I am however it will not control me. That night will forever be locked away in my mind between the fear and the careless looks on their faces, my most formative years were destroyed because I was unwanted. Each new family gave me intense hope but without fail I never deserved to be a child. “Then there are all of those children, the ones who aren’t resilient. The ones who slowly, quietly die. I think the difference is that the kids who bounce back learn to bear a little bit more than they thought they could, and they soon understand that the secret to surviving foster care is to accept finite disappointments while never losing infinite hope. I think that was how Donald survived as long as he did, by never losing his faith in the wish that tomorrow would be better. But as time went by, day after day, the tomorrows never got better; they got worse, and he simply gave up. In the way he saw the world, pain was inevitable, but no one ever explained to him that suffering was optional,” is a fitting quote from John William Tuohy’s book No time to say goodbye: memoirs of a life in foster
The situation defines my personality and many of my fears and is part of who I am however it will not control me. That night will forever be locked away in my mind between the fear and the careless looks on their faces, my most formative years were destroyed because I was unwanted. Each new family gave me intense hope but without fail I never deserved to be a child. “Then there are all of those children, the ones who aren’t resilient. The ones who slowly, quietly die. I think the difference is that the kids who bounce back learn to bear a little bit more than they thought they could, and they soon understand that the secret to surviving foster care is to accept finite disappointments while never losing infinite hope. I think that was how Donald survived as long as he did, by never losing his faith in the wish that tomorrow would be better. But as time went by, day after day, the tomorrows never got better; they got worse, and he simply gave up. In the way he saw the world, pain was inevitable, but no one ever explained to him that suffering was optional,” is a fitting quote from John William Tuohy’s book No time to say goodbye: memoirs of a life in foster