Flexibility is another important concept that defines how a family functions. It is also called adaptability and it focuses on how family systems manage stability and change. This concept is defined as “the amount of change in family’s leadership, role relationships, and relationship rules” (Olson, 2000, p.147). There is a scale for adaptability with four levels that are rigid, structured, flexible, and chaotic. The level of flexibility is a great stance for my family. While growing up, I watched my family dynamic change over numerous. Some changes were worse than others, but we were able to adapt and overcome them. A change in my family that had a huge impact on everyone is my parent’s divorce. Their divorce change our family dynamic completely.
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My family is big on showing affection so whenever the family get together for holidays or birthday, we had to literally hug and kiss every one, when we first get there and before we leave. It is also important to my parents for us to call both of our grandparents at least once a week. It just shows our grandparents that they are still important to us even though we do not see them as often. They really make sure that we do it since we are older and have busier lives. Regulative rules tells a family member how, when, where, and with whom to talk. While growing up, we had a rule where we had to let our mom know they were are home after coming from our different activities. We could not go home and go straight to our rooms without greeting our mom first. It could either be a quick “hi mom” or it was a chance to tell her about your day. It became very natural after awhile. Also, my brothers and I have to text my mom that we made it in after having a late night out. We really had to do this rule when we all first went away to college. Sometimes it is hard to remember but she worries if she does not hear from us and she knows that we are going out. It was hard for my brothers to do it at first, but after awhile they got used to it. My mom really expect it from me the most since we talk all the
My family is big on showing affection so whenever the family get together for holidays or birthday, we had to literally hug and kiss every one, when we first get there and before we leave. It is also important to my parents for us to call both of our grandparents at least once a week. It just shows our grandparents that they are still important to us even though we do not see them as often. They really make sure that we do it since we are older and have busier lives. Regulative rules tells a family member how, when, where, and with whom to talk. While growing up, we had a rule where we had to let our mom know they were are home after coming from our different activities. We could not go home and go straight to our rooms without greeting our mom first. It could either be a quick “hi mom” or it was a chance to tell her about your day. It became very natural after awhile. Also, my brothers and I have to text my mom that we made it in after having a late night out. We really had to do this rule when we all first went away to college. Sometimes it is hard to remember but she worries if she does not hear from us and she knows that we are going out. It was hard for my brothers to do it at first, but after awhile they got used to it. My mom really expect it from me the most since we talk all the