Relations Project Part 3 Final Reflection Improving my relationship with my mother was my overall goal for this project. This succeeded decently, but I am not sure if it was due to outside factors or my actions with this project, or some combination of both. Perspective is one of my strengths and when I offer other sides of stories, events, and ideas, she dislikes seeing what others think because she is right, and they are wrong. Hoping to cut down on the number of disagreements we had, was a specific goal of the project. We were fighting, often two or three times a day, which was just making previous arguments even more of a problem and adding to the new ones.
Therefore, I believe a major cause of all the fighting was related to how often …show more content…
This is a personal fix that has helped the project overall and should continue to do so.
To have time apart from them, my plan was to avoid calling them when I get off work, and once I got home, to stay in the basement (my bedroom). This would be a start of limits being placed on our relationship and a way to be more independent.
Another boundary that would cut down on the fighting going straight to my room after I was home. Long days were especially caustic, as I was worn and tired from focusing all day. I would just drop into the chair in the living room, not having the energy or patients to take it downstairs, and my book bag was sitting in front of me, making it easy to stay in the chair and do work. Because I was tired, I was very easily agitated, and my mom and dad always want to chat, whereas I can go a whole day without talking and have done so many times when pet sitting (one of the reasons I love doing it is for the peace and quiet). There is such a thing as comfortable and companionable …show more content…
To keep track of what I did do, I made a chart in excel to track my evening behavior as previously stated, which is attached at the end of my paper. I only put an “X” in a box if I did two of the three different plans to reduce friction in the house.
My final plan that I previously outlined, was less specific as I underestimated how tired I was every day, and having a heavy bag and genetically poor ankles, walking down steps with a book bag was a bit concerning as a health hazard. This made me decide to eat upstairs, as this would also prevent plates and cups from disappearing and attracting bugs which was a huge complaint by both of my parents, and rest a bit if I was too tired. It allowed more flexibility while still striving for that goal.
One outside factor that had a part in this was that my mother was able to secure a job, which took her out of the house and away from my dad and me. And her second shift schedule cuts face time down even more as she was asleep by the time I arrived home. Due to her new schedule, I am not sure how much of my plans would have been useful or even
Therefore, I believe a major cause of all the fighting was related to how often …show more content…
This is a personal fix that has helped the project overall and should continue to do so.
To have time apart from them, my plan was to avoid calling them when I get off work, and once I got home, to stay in the basement (my bedroom). This would be a start of limits being placed on our relationship and a way to be more independent.
Another boundary that would cut down on the fighting going straight to my room after I was home. Long days were especially caustic, as I was worn and tired from focusing all day. I would just drop into the chair in the living room, not having the energy or patients to take it downstairs, and my book bag was sitting in front of me, making it easy to stay in the chair and do work. Because I was tired, I was very easily agitated, and my mom and dad always want to chat, whereas I can go a whole day without talking and have done so many times when pet sitting (one of the reasons I love doing it is for the peace and quiet). There is such a thing as comfortable and companionable …show more content…
To keep track of what I did do, I made a chart in excel to track my evening behavior as previously stated, which is attached at the end of my paper. I only put an “X” in a box if I did two of the three different plans to reduce friction in the house.
My final plan that I previously outlined, was less specific as I underestimated how tired I was every day, and having a heavy bag and genetically poor ankles, walking down steps with a book bag was a bit concerning as a health hazard. This made me decide to eat upstairs, as this would also prevent plates and cups from disappearing and attracting bugs which was a huge complaint by both of my parents, and rest a bit if I was too tired. It allowed more flexibility while still striving for that goal.
One outside factor that had a part in this was that my mother was able to secure a job, which took her out of the house and away from my dad and me. And her second shift schedule cuts face time down even more as she was asleep by the time I arrived home. Due to her new schedule, I am not sure how much of my plans would have been useful or even