Providing someone with the ability to make occasional mistakes without losing the relationship between the two people is what allows comfort and stability to exist in said relationship. Many people think that forgiveness is an action, but it is not. Forgiveness is an attitude or mindset. To truly forgive someone, or yourself, you don’t have to forget about what happened because then you couldn’t learn from it. Simply move on and drop all bad feelings for this person, maybe even try to understand why they said or did what they did. Although some may believe that other character traits may have a larger effect on positive relationships, forgiveness is the most beneficial and progressive aspect of one’s character. They may still be untrustworthy
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In a June 2014 article for The Center of Development, Dr. Lawrence Wilson defines forgiveness as, “ . . . a special process where and individual let’s go of any ill feelings towards another, oneself, or towards an entity or situation” (Wilson). However, it is possible for it not to end there. When people hold in emotions and half-forgive someone, the lingering mal-intentions fester and build upon themselves inside your head. During this whole façade, the person you’re still thinking about is most likely not continuing to do anything wrong. It can weaken a person while this tendency becomes worse until one’s traumas often occupy most of their mental activity. See, refraining from forgiving someone can only worsen the situation. Usually people don’t forgive because they are selfish. This tendency makes no sense to me as they’re doing nothing but hurting themselves. You really think the other person cares that you are beating yourself up over their mistake? Usually, the case is not so. If anything, they are laughing at you while you torture yourself over something that could have been dropped and forgotten long …show more content…
Lack of forgiveness often ruins marriages, work opportunities, families, but mostly, it effects what’s on the inside. Forgiving is a spiritual process, why do you think there is so much emphasis on the characteristic of forgiveness in holy texts? It is the very foundation of morality. You cannot go to heaven without forgiveness, you cannot mend a relationship without forgiveness, you cannot make mistakes without forgiveness. That said, tolerance and forgiveness are not to be taken for granted. Abuse of forgiveness is one of the only downsides to it. Someone can easily take advantage of your patience, and kindness while you forgive them mistake after mistake after mistake. They learn the pattern and recognize its consistency, so don’t be that person; either one, the abuser or the abused. Forgive easily, but take note when someone continues to make mistakes and expect you to open your arms to them again. These people are not necessarily bad, hell, half the time they do not even notice that they’re doing it. But they are simply not the type of people you want in your life, and that’s always up to
In a June 2014 article for The Center of Development, Dr. Lawrence Wilson defines forgiveness as, “ . . . a special process where and individual let’s go of any ill feelings towards another, oneself, or towards an entity or situation” (Wilson). However, it is possible for it not to end there. When people hold in emotions and half-forgive someone, the lingering mal-intentions fester and build upon themselves inside your head. During this whole façade, the person you’re still thinking about is most likely not continuing to do anything wrong. It can weaken a person while this tendency becomes worse until one’s traumas often occupy most of their mental activity. See, refraining from forgiving someone can only worsen the situation. Usually people don’t forgive because they are selfish. This tendency makes no sense to me as they’re doing nothing but hurting themselves. You really think the other person cares that you are beating yourself up over their mistake? Usually, the case is not so. If anything, they are laughing at you while you torture yourself over something that could have been dropped and forgotten long …show more content…
Lack of forgiveness often ruins marriages, work opportunities, families, but mostly, it effects what’s on the inside. Forgiving is a spiritual process, why do you think there is so much emphasis on the characteristic of forgiveness in holy texts? It is the very foundation of morality. You cannot go to heaven without forgiveness, you cannot mend a relationship without forgiveness, you cannot make mistakes without forgiveness. That said, tolerance and forgiveness are not to be taken for granted. Abuse of forgiveness is one of the only downsides to it. Someone can easily take advantage of your patience, and kindness while you forgive them mistake after mistake after mistake. They learn the pattern and recognize its consistency, so don’t be that person; either one, the abuser or the abused. Forgive easily, but take note when someone continues to make mistakes and expect you to open your arms to them again. These people are not necessarily bad, hell, half the time they do not even notice that they’re doing it. But they are simply not the type of people you want in your life, and that’s always up to