as being an unrealistic depiction of the same. BDSM requires both participants to make informed and independent decisions, something which Anastasia is incapable of making, because of her inexperience and her proximity to Grey who pressurises and overwhelms her. The problem with Fifty Shades is that it casually associates hot sex with violence, but does not take into consideration any of the above. Sometimes, Ana says yes to sex she’s uncomfortable with, because she’s too shy to speak her mind, or because she’s afraid of losing Christian; she gives consent when he wants to inflict pain, yet she doesn’t feel comfortable with it. Amy Bonomi writes about how 50 Shades seems to sanction abuse by portraying pain and humiliation as something erotic
