The topic of sex is quite pervasive in our culture and represents a highly contradictory space. American society has evolved from the conservative beliefs of sex that it previously held in the early 19th century. One aspect of our culture that has also evolved is the woman and sex. Over the years, her role in sexual relationships has evolved. From the onset of the contraceptive, the woman could avoid pregnancy and engage in other demanding economic activities just like the man. Today’s women are much more self-aware in defining themselves “as full persons in sex with men” (Rila & Steinhart, 1980, 256). However, with this evolution so has the prevalence of extra-marital affairs. In comparison to former times, today’s extra-marital affairs are
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Divorce statistics (n.d.) reveal that 17% of all divorces that occur are due to adultery by either one of the spouses or both of them. Furthermore, the statistics reveal that most extramarital affairs do not end up in remarriage of the person involved with in the affair. Again, this reveals the temporal satisfaction brought by premarital affairs. With separation come anger, rage and hatred which inadvertently affects children who are innocent in this case. Brian (2002) states that a child will be more affected by divorce than a parent’s death because the child feels like the parents chose what which was against them. She further explains that children whose parents separate when they are young often display “separation anxiety” where a child is afraid that the separation may occur again. Also, they may feel deprived because of an attachment already formed to the parent. The result is that the child displays aggressive behavior and become more demanding. These occurrences that happen to the child at this age are bound to affect their view of marriage in future, which will only taints the name of marriage.
Aside from breaking a promise made before God and people, extra-marital affairs involve deception which serves to destroy the friendship that two people once shared. It also cripples the marriage and family institution and severely affects children. From this discourse and the statistics presented, it is evident that extra marital relationships not only satisfy temporal pleasures that weaken a marriage bond, but also hurts the other spouse and the children. It should be avoided at all
Divorce statistics (n.d.) reveal that 17% of all divorces that occur are due to adultery by either one of the spouses or both of them. Furthermore, the statistics reveal that most extramarital affairs do not end up in remarriage of the person involved with in the affair. Again, this reveals the temporal satisfaction brought by premarital affairs. With separation come anger, rage and hatred which inadvertently affects children who are innocent in this case. Brian (2002) states that a child will be more affected by divorce than a parent’s death because the child feels like the parents chose what which was against them. She further explains that children whose parents separate when they are young often display “separation anxiety” where a child is afraid that the separation may occur again. Also, they may feel deprived because of an attachment already formed to the parent. The result is that the child displays aggressive behavior and become more demanding. These occurrences that happen to the child at this age are bound to affect their view of marriage in future, which will only taints the name of marriage.
Aside from breaking a promise made before God and people, extra-marital affairs involve deception which serves to destroy the friendship that two people once shared. It also cripples the marriage and family institution and severely affects children. From this discourse and the statistics presented, it is evident that extra marital relationships not only satisfy temporal pleasures that weaken a marriage bond, but also hurts the other spouse and the children. It should be avoided at all