Personal Loss
Experiencing a personal loss can be a very emotionally driven time for anyone. People are uniquely made and with this said, the emotions, feelings, and thoughts of someone who has experienced or is experiencing a loss is just as exclusive in how they deal with it. I have worked in health care for nearly ten years now. Seven of these years were spent as a nurse’s aid and three of them as a registered nurse. I have seen people die, nearly die, and live. I have been a part of a multitude of code blue situations and saved many lives. However, there is no comparison when the person that dies is your own family member or friend. Throughout this paper I will evaluate my own personal loss, coping styles and grief. The purpose of this …show more content…
My fiancé’s aunt, L.S. recently passed away from colon cancer two years ago. This was a very traumatic loss because she was only in her forties and still had two children in high school and her daughter had just gotten married. I did not cope with this loss initially instead I cared for my fiancé who was extremely close to his aunt and ignored my own feelings. My first instinct is always to fix things and because I could not fix his aunt, I wanted to help fix him with his sorrow. Unfortunately, there was nothing I could do for him and felt useless. Over the years that she has been gone, I gradually have learned to cope with her death. I started accepting the fact that she was not going to be there at any more family events because she was no longer with us on this earth. I feel as though I was initially stuck in a prolonged state of denial when she had passed. According to Ramstad (2014) “Grief is not the same for everyone. Although people may pass through some of the same stages, they do not necessarily go through all of them or in the same order” (p. …show more content…
It is important to acknowledge the best coping mechanisms that work for us in order to recover from it. Taking time to assess my personal loss history has been a real eye opener for me in that I need to broaden my coping skills to accept future loss. I have acknowledged some styles of coping that have helped me in the past and will continue to search for new styles now and in the future. Being aware of the different coping mechanism has helped me to determine not only my patient’s needs but my needs as well in times of hardship. This assessment has made me realize that personal loss is something that is never easy and with adequate coping skills one can persevere through in order to help others in the future. I have grown professionally and personally from this assignment through recognizing my own patterns of grief and have a better understanding that there truly is not a right or wrong way to
Experiencing a personal loss can be a very emotionally driven time for anyone. People are uniquely made and with this said, the emotions, feelings, and thoughts of someone who has experienced or is experiencing a loss is just as exclusive in how they deal with it. I have worked in health care for nearly ten years now. Seven of these years were spent as a nurse’s aid and three of them as a registered nurse. I have seen people die, nearly die, and live. I have been a part of a multitude of code blue situations and saved many lives. However, there is no comparison when the person that dies is your own family member or friend. Throughout this paper I will evaluate my own personal loss, coping styles and grief. The purpose of this …show more content…
My fiancé’s aunt, L.S. recently passed away from colon cancer two years ago. This was a very traumatic loss because she was only in her forties and still had two children in high school and her daughter had just gotten married. I did not cope with this loss initially instead I cared for my fiancé who was extremely close to his aunt and ignored my own feelings. My first instinct is always to fix things and because I could not fix his aunt, I wanted to help fix him with his sorrow. Unfortunately, there was nothing I could do for him and felt useless. Over the years that she has been gone, I gradually have learned to cope with her death. I started accepting the fact that she was not going to be there at any more family events because she was no longer with us on this earth. I feel as though I was initially stuck in a prolonged state of denial when she had passed. According to Ramstad (2014) “Grief is not the same for everyone. Although people may pass through some of the same stages, they do not necessarily go through all of them or in the same order” (p. …show more content…
It is important to acknowledge the best coping mechanisms that work for us in order to recover from it. Taking time to assess my personal loss history has been a real eye opener for me in that I need to broaden my coping skills to accept future loss. I have acknowledged some styles of coping that have helped me in the past and will continue to search for new styles now and in the future. Being aware of the different coping mechanism has helped me to determine not only my patient’s needs but my needs as well in times of hardship. This assessment has made me realize that personal loss is something that is never easy and with adequate coping skills one can persevere through in order to help others in the future. I have grown professionally and personally from this assignment through recognizing my own patterns of grief and have a better understanding that there truly is not a right or wrong way to