Simple Marriage Rules

Four Simple Rules to a Lasting Marriage “…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”-that is one big promise to be giving someone who once was a complete stranger to you. Marriage, it’s what most of us have already scripted in our minds to do as we get to “that point in our lives”. Many people make those vows only to find out that they are very hard to keep. Yet, to some it isn’t so unattainable at all; I’ll tell you how. My wife and I have been married 6 years, and counting. Please do take into consideration that I just turned 27 and my wife is 25; we got married at the age of 20 and 19, respectfully. Now, I’ll admit, it isn’t “happily …show more content…
This is by far the most important advice I can give you and the hardest one to follow. It because we confuse “falling in love” with “being in love”. Falling in love with someone is all the fun because of the lust, sparks, and “newness” that ignites curiosity. Being in love with someone is when you can still love them after the sparks dies, lust turns into familiarity, and the relationship is now too stable and comfortable, it’s routine and boring. Everyone has a “type” they seek in others to fall in love with. A lot of marriages and relationship fail because someone was not the right type, or they were and change out of that type. No other person will ever be 100% your type. Everyone has flaws, and to make a marriage work, you have to look pass those flaws. Accept the 80% they fulfill and don’t go looking for the missing 20%. Your spouse is human. It is in human nature to constantly grow, learn, adapt, and change. The person you originally fell in love with may not be the same 10 or 50 years later. Their interests and personality will change. It is life experiences that make us the people we are. Like you, your spouse is living their life, and depending on what happens, it may or may not change them as a person. As their spouse, accommodate their changes and accept them for who they may become. Same thing if they may have flaws that you were not aware to until you married them. Their flaws do not determine the person they are; they should be more than their flaws because there are many qualities that determines someone’s character. For example, I am a very selfish man. It was actually being with my wife that I was able to finally admit this flaw of mine. Just because I may be very selfish, it does not mean I am completely heartless and do not care for my wife. I often contemplate this to myself, as I see my selfishness a huge flaw I constantly battle and the reason to