Communication Styles
In our family, it was difficult to communicate. Many negative things were not communicated. As children, we could never complain, be disrespectful, and we were expected to be mindful of our elders. In our family, good and happy feelings were communicated. Bad and negative feeling weren’t communicated as often. This was mostly because that was the type of environment my father had set up. Due to these unrealistic expectations, we could not have a serious conversation with my father. It was if things always had to go his way. When I would get upset with my father, he would never know about it. If he had some inclination of us feeling down or upset, he would brush it off.
My mother was different, she didn’t like to hear us complain or be disrespectful, but would not turn us around when we came with a problem. One of her favorite quotes was “Everything has a solution, except death”. I took a lot from this way of thinking. I am a very sensitive person. I learned that crying over spilled milk, was not always the answer to very difficult problems, I learned that I can find and overcome a problem, when I search for a solution. My mother would work with us to meet our emotional needs. I would rarely find myself in a disagreement with my mother. This was the same for my siblings.
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My father was considered the main bread winner, therefore he focused his time and energy on work. My mother was somewhat traditional, she worked, but also had the responsibilities of taking care of our home. These responsibilities included cooking, cleaning, and managing the finances. Also, my dad did do work around the house. He mainly worked outside. He took care of the yard work and home repairs. Both my parents would organize special events at our home, and both would invite friends and family. My mother would concern herself with the food, and my father would book the
In our family, it was difficult to communicate. Many negative things were not communicated. As children, we could never complain, be disrespectful, and we were expected to be mindful of our elders. In our family, good and happy feelings were communicated. Bad and negative feeling weren’t communicated as often. This was mostly because that was the type of environment my father had set up. Due to these unrealistic expectations, we could not have a serious conversation with my father. It was if things always had to go his way. When I would get upset with my father, he would never know about it. If he had some inclination of us feeling down or upset, he would brush it off.
My mother was different, she didn’t like to hear us complain or be disrespectful, but would not turn us around when we came with a problem. One of her favorite quotes was “Everything has a solution, except death”. I took a lot from this way of thinking. I am a very sensitive person. I learned that crying over spilled milk, was not always the answer to very difficult problems, I learned that I can find and overcome a problem, when I search for a solution. My mother would work with us to meet our emotional needs. I would rarely find myself in a disagreement with my mother. This was the same for my siblings.
When my parents fought, there was no one …show more content…
My father was considered the main bread winner, therefore he focused his time and energy on work. My mother was somewhat traditional, she worked, but also had the responsibilities of taking care of our home. These responsibilities included cooking, cleaning, and managing the finances. Also, my dad did do work around the house. He mainly worked outside. He took care of the yard work and home repairs. Both my parents would organize special events at our home, and both would invite friends and family. My mother would concern herself with the food, and my father would book the