In the poem, The Journey by Mary Oliver, she depicts the positive results of leaving the negative influence of others, “as you left their voices behind / the stars began to burn / through the sheets of clouds / and there was a new voice / which was slowly / recognized as your own” (24-29). Dorothy Rowe establishes in her article, “With Friends Like These” the importance of having supportive relationships and how they can emotionally benefit or toll an individual : “our ideas are validated, we feel secure in ourselves, but when they are proved wrong, we feel as though we are falling apart” (141). She also expresses how one’s confidence can be greatly influenced by certain types of people in our lives by stating, “the people who can validate us best are those we can see as equals, and with whom there can be mutual affection, trust, loyalty and acceptance. Such people give us the kind of validation that builds a lasting self-confidence” (Rowe 143). However, the author further points out that “our levels of confidence also relate to how ready we are to accept change, and how able we are to allow our friends to change . . . change creates uncertainty, and uncertainty can be frightening” (Rowe 143). The social influence from a group of individuals can negatively pressure or lead to one doing things they normally would not : “a group’s ability to either arouse or lessen our feelings of
In the poem, The Journey by Mary Oliver, she depicts the positive results of leaving the negative influence of others, “as you left their voices behind / the stars began to burn / through the sheets of clouds / and there was a new voice / which was slowly / recognized as your own” (24-29). Dorothy Rowe establishes in her article, “With Friends Like These” the importance of having supportive relationships and how they can emotionally benefit or toll an individual : “our ideas are validated, we feel secure in ourselves, but when they are proved wrong, we feel as though we are falling apart” (141). She also expresses how one’s confidence can be greatly influenced by certain types of people in our lives by stating, “the people who can validate us best are those we can see as equals, and with whom there can be mutual affection, trust, loyalty and acceptance. Such people give us the kind of validation that builds a lasting self-confidence” (Rowe 143). However, the author further points out that “our levels of confidence also relate to how ready we are to accept change, and how able we are to allow our friends to change . . . change creates uncertainty, and uncertainty can be frightening” (Rowe 143). The social influence from a group of individuals can negatively pressure or lead to one doing things they normally would not : “a group’s ability to either arouse or lessen our feelings of