Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code By Michael Kimmel

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Gender Stereotypes In Today’s Society Her hands grasp the doorknob and slowly creaks it open. Careful not to wake up her sweet baby girl, she tiptoes into the bright pink colored room covered with daisy and rainbow stickers. As she walks across the room she glances at the corner where a miniature house is filled with Barbie dolls. Besides the home are Hello Kitty dolls, all seated at a round table with a pearl white ornate tea set. She turns and admires her organized closet filled with dresses and heels passed down from her older daughter. A soft whimper catches her attention and she strides over to the soft pink crib. She immediately picks her up and soothes the baby with whispers of a melody. Gender stereotypes influence all the females …show more content…
Society tells men, “Don’t show any emotion!” “Don’t show any weakness!” “Don’t cry!”. The “gender police” is always watching you; your peers, family, and friends are watching you. Kimmel discusses how masculinity is always tested with critical words. Because of the constant, brutal emotional beat downs, it causes men to suppress their feelings. In doing so, this causes a higher rate of depression for males. From this, the Guy Code disconnects men from their emotions which ultimately makes them feel …show more content…
A main character, Willem Dafoe is shooting in a commercial wearing a white dress and heels. As he is shooting the commercial, a fan blows from under the train rails. Dafoe’s dress hits his face which results in Dafoe throwing a small tantrum. The producer offers Dafoe a Snickers bar and calmly states, “Miss Monroe, eat a Snickers… You get a little cranky when you’re hungry.” Instantly Dafoe powerfully rips the bar out of his boss 's hands and angrily takes a bite. From that, Dafoe turns into Marilyn Monroe. Monroe is then cooperative and gentle with her dress and proceeds with filming the commercial without any complications. Both characters are wearing the same dress but one is a man and the other is a woman. The man is portrayed as angry and masculine before he ate the Snickers. Dafoe’s body language and the tone of his voice is considered as “masculine” in today 's society. Monroe appears to be feminine and shy after she ate the Snickers. Her voice was much softer and the way she smoothly grasped her dress and posed made her fit society’s gender roles. In the end of the commercial, the screen displays the phrase, “You’re not you when you 're hungry.”. This implies how men don’t usually wear dresses and heels. Before the commercial ends, the camera screens to the man holding the fan under the rail. It shows him looking up her dress and commenting on

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