Adults go through trauma and are affected by the residual reminder of the loss of their own childhoods while children new to the world experience trauma as the process of losing a childhood they still have access to. The matured self experiences the world around them through loss and and their reactions to that loss directly affect their own children's perspectives on the world.The youthful self experience's the world through new eyes that have yet to be tainted by trauma and the real world therefore creating a large divide between the experiences of the child and the adult when it comes to strenuous life events.
God of small things encompasses a range of emotions and struggles that are faced by the family in Kerala India, mainly due to caste differences they encounter. Ammu the mother of Rahel and Estha faced a difficult and defiant upbringing unable to leave the family home if she were not married to a respectable man. Her childhood trauma stems from her parent's violent relationship and marital dynamics. Ammu's parents dismissed her needs to become independent and educated therefore she never fully experienced the coming of age associated with independence. She married a man who later in marriage directly