Before going into the signs of an abusive relationship, how to avoid one, and getting out of an abusive relationship, one must know what abuse is. According to Mark Rafenstein there are four types of abuse. The first one Rafenstein touches on is physical abuse, he states “it can include pushing, grabbing, scratching, or anything else that hurts your body” (Rafenstein 2001, Para. 4). According to “The National Domestic Violence Hotline” on average, twenty four people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence or stalking an intimate partner in the United States”. That statistic is terrible not only females are being abused, but their families, and friends are involved. One recent story of physical abusive that made the news
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He states, “It includes calling people names or otherwise belittling them with put-downs.” (Rafenstein 2001, Para. 5) I myself have experienced verbal abuse in the case of receiving it and abusing others. Verbal abuse is an activity I’m involved in, every day in my life rather it’s between my parents and I, my friends, and my girlfriend, yet the abuse isn’t harmful to the point where it affects our relationship. Yet when at a young age I’ve experienced verbal abusive coming from my teammates. Back then I was a real chubby boy, so I was being called fat, fat john and fat ass most of the time. At a young age I was really sensitive, and the name calling hurt me to the point where to hide my feeling even though they were laughing at me and I laughed right along with them. But deep down I was in pain. Another form of abusive Rafenstein talks about is emotional abuse; he states “it involves such things as with holding approval, appreciation, or affection. Or it can involve trying to control someone’s decisions” (Rafenstein 2001, Para. 6). This is a problem that can be solved with compromising with the significant other. This form of abuse is popular just like the other forms of abuse because in a lot of cases the guy controls the female decision making. For example if a female is immune to going out a lot before she enter the relationship, she wears a attire that makes her look attractive to other men. When
He states, “It includes calling people names or otherwise belittling them with put-downs.” (Rafenstein 2001, Para. 5) I myself have experienced verbal abuse in the case of receiving it and abusing others. Verbal abuse is an activity I’m involved in, every day in my life rather it’s between my parents and I, my friends, and my girlfriend, yet the abuse isn’t harmful to the point where it affects our relationship. Yet when at a young age I’ve experienced verbal abusive coming from my teammates. Back then I was a real chubby boy, so I was being called fat, fat john and fat ass most of the time. At a young age I was really sensitive, and the name calling hurt me to the point where to hide my feeling even though they were laughing at me and I laughed right along with them. But deep down I was in pain. Another form of abusive Rafenstein talks about is emotional abuse; he states “it involves such things as with holding approval, appreciation, or affection. Or it can involve trying to control someone’s decisions” (Rafenstein 2001, Para. 6). This is a problem that can be solved with compromising with the significant other. This form of abuse is popular just like the other forms of abuse because in a lot of cases the guy controls the female decision making. For example if a female is immune to going out a lot before she enter the relationship, she wears a attire that makes her look attractive to other men. When