In Jon Krakauer’s Into The Wild, Christopher McCandless, prior to embarking in his Alaskan Odyssey, writes a letter to his aged friend, Ron Franz, stating his stance on human relationships: “You are wrong if you think Joy emanates only or principally from human relationships … you do not need me or anyone else around to bring this kind of light into your life.” (57) McCandless further explains that the dependence on others to be happy is unnecessary, as one can be perfectly content on his own, once he finds beauty in nature and life experiences. I partially agree with this argument, as I value the balance between self-reliance and human relationships; By spending time alone, I become more appreciative of time spent with others. Last summer,…
Loneliness has and remains be a deep and often undermined issue in society. ”It’s incoded in our genetics ,and its not easy to…
“Loneliness, triggered by a desire to connect with others, reaches deep into our soul and pushes us toward others” (Ed Donner). Loneliness has always been a problem in this society. It is an unpleasant feeling to have. Most people will experience it and will acquire problems due to it. But most will not know how to cope with it.…
40% of people suffer chronic loneliness and 15% die early because of chronic loneliness. In John Steinbeck's novel Of Mice and Men, he expresses to the reader that the effects of loneliness and isolation play important roles in all aspects of life. When he was young, Lennie lived an odd life and he was very isolated. He did not have people teach him how to deal with people and how to communicate.…
As previously mentioned, there have been so many deaths among elders and their children that the larger family system has fractured into many smaller systems, who do not interact with each other as much as one would expect a normal family to. Death, however, can be a transformative process for the bereaved, and even growth psychically (Berzoff, 2011). Interestingly, nearly every family member who has had either the death of a spouse or divorce, have not stayed single for very long. It is my supposition, that this behavior is driven by a desire not to be alone, which is due to so much death and divorce happening within the greater family system, particularly in prior generations, not to mention the changes in living situations due to these events (Berzoff, 2011). As noted by McGuinness, “divorce reverberates in children’s lives for many years……
In the beginning of Roberta M. Gilberts textbook Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions (1992), she argues “In the realm of the purely personal - after food, water, and shelter - the quality of relationships most often determines the quality of life” (p. 3). I believe this statement perfectly sums up how vital and necessary human relationships are for human life, and the strong impact they play on having a positive and meaningful life. There were several concepts presented throughout chapters 1 - 12. They were each of equal importance and each greatly impacts the understanding of relationships. In order to have a purposeful life and a greater understanding of relationships, there are many crucial concepts that must be understood, three of them are differentiation of self, thinking systems, and the relationship pattern of cutoff.…
Loneliness has destructive effects on our mental and physical health. “Loneliness can weaken our immune system functioning and it can increase inflammatory, which can lead to cardiovascular diseases and small percent chance of Alzheimer disease” (Winch…
“‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. ’(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV). ” Having a friend is having someone to help you through life.…
Not only can I find meaning by nurturing my newfound friendships, but I can also generate meaning by maintaining the relationships with my family and friends back home. This source of generating meaning to contribute to my happiness is justified in the same way as strengthening my newfound friendships. According to Wolf’s theory, these actions have subjective appeal and objective validity. Nurturing these relationships will require special attention and care because I no longer see my family or old friends every day, therefore nurturing these relationships is done out of ‘reasons of love.’ I believe family and friends (whether old or new) are important examples of aspects of a happy life.…
Companionship is the key to the survival of mankind. Humans would not have made it this far in time without working together as companions. Even when God created Adam, he also created Eve as his one and only companion. People require companionship in order to work efficiently. In the novel Frankenstein by Mary Shelly, Victor Frankenstein tells Robert Walton his story of how his obsession with science causes him to give life to a creature.…
Human companionship is one of the most basic needs of humans that can be seen in the Creation story. It is tricky for any human to find the perfect companion especially if one is one of a kind. K.M. Banham Bridges can agree that the lack of companionship or feeling of loneliness can lead to crime. His study shows many factors which contribute to juvenile Delinquency. He states: “He is also deprived of socially acceptable means of expression for such strong instincts as curiosity and ad- venture, rivalry, sex, or self-display.…
Ed Diener and Martin Seligman, conducted a study at the University of Illinois stating, “people who have one or more close friendships appear to be happier.” On the other hand, if people are isolated and experience social exclusion, it tends to lead towards depression. Ed Diener and Martin Seligman found characteristics shared by students who were very happy. They realized that "their strong ties to friends and family and commitment to spending time with them,” ("The New Science of Happiness," Claudia Wallis, Time Magazine, Jan. 09, 2005) was the reason to their happiness. Additionally, in that study, “They were found to be happiest with their friends, followed by family members, and least happy if they were alone” (Larson, Mannell, & Zuzanek,…
According to Meltzer’s article, the NSPCC released a detail in 2009 that the number of calls from children and teenagers about loneliness had risen five times higher after five years (Meltzer 1, 2). Moreover, the Mental Health Foundation found that 53% of 18-34-year-olds had felt depressed because of loneliness (Meltzer 2). In fact, another researchers found that young people worried about feeling alone, being single, about the quality of their relationships with their friends and family more than any other group (Meltzer 2). The reasons for those finding are spending too much time communicating online and not enough in person (Meltzer 2).…
Family plays a special role in the history of human society. It’s the most important and greatest institution in the world. Family is the first building block in the body, and the solid foundation of society. Family played a major role in the creation of suitable and appropriate for the individual to exercise his role and the transition in the stages of natural growth humanitarian climates to adulthood. If we look around us, whether in the family or outside the perimeter, we find some happy families enjoying a high degree of compatibility in its members, and the children of these families enjoys psychological satisfaction, to achieve this happiness we have to concern for the family.…
Specific Purpose: To persuade the audience that using Loneliness can be a mortal enemy of a person, Introduction: Loneliness, sometimes can be someone’s big friend but most of the time our biggest enemy, that’s what we will be focusing on, when loneliness becomes dangerous , and how to deal with it and to make it work to our benefits, or even better, a passage to socialize and become a part of the horde. “It's beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. It means the mind is not influenced and contaminated by society” (jiddu krishnamurti )this quote is true, till you get to isolation, and that when loneliness can be mortal To understand why loneliness often prevents us from experiencing happiness, we must explore what loneliness is and how it functions, investigate the popular advice given to overcome depressive feeling of loneliness and discuss three essential actions that must be undertaken to cope with lonely feelings.…