Emotionally Intelligent Leadership Summary

The chapters I chose are chapter fourteen Coaching Others from Emotionally Intelligent Leadership by Marcy Levy Shankman, Scott J. Allen and Paige Haber-Curran. I also looked at chapter seven When to Raise it from Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Shelia Heen. I chose the first reading because I feel that my strengths lay with coaching others. I chose the second reading because I feel that the area that I need to work on is having difficult conversations especially deciding what should be discussed and what shouldn’t be. For the first reading I looked at chapter fourteen Coaching Others in the book Emotionally Intelligent Leadership. This chapter looks at skills needed to be an effective coach. There were a few things …show more content…
I feel that I am a decent coach when I was flipping through the pages it discussed challenging and supporting people so that can thrive in their environment. I feel that with my old entomology team I was able to create that environment. One of the key reasons that I was able to coach effectively is because I was aware of the feeling that they might have coming into a career development event that they have never heard of. I feel that because I was near the same age as everyone in my group and laid back I was able to encourage them to ask questions and they were more willing to talk to me because I wouldn’t judge them like our advisor would. The last thing that I felt I did well with in that situation was challenging them to get the insects correct but also providing a space where if they got it wrong it would be fine and everyone would go over it together. This gave as the book suggested an environment that challenges and supports. I took this entomology team experience and this class and books into my next challenge which was at bowl bug. There people would come to look at the insects and if they were brave they would hold them. Like most things there were people that were braver than others and they would hold the insects with no problem. The next category were the people that wanted to hold them but were scarred. The same concept applied even though the coaching interaction was limited there were …show more content…
As stated above I need to continue working on communication and active listening because those skills need to be worked on all the time. The major area that I need to work on is having difficult conversations. Like many people in my class I am a classic avoider. My theory is that if I don’t acknowledge it didn’t happen. That idea doesn’t help because eventually everything gets bottled up and I explode. I know that a way to help that is to sit down and have a conversation, but I never feel that it is right time to have a conversation. Reading the difficult conversations book opened my eyes to having difficult conversation. I have never had a difficult conversation like the examples in the book, but I am now willing to have one. I plan on having a conversation with one of my friends and I hope it will go