“You need to listen to me! I’m your mother and I always want to give you the best of everything.” I’m sure that we’ve heard this statement thousands time. Needless to argue, all parents love their children and want them to success. How do we define the best and successful versus failure and destroying a child’s motivation? In the Mindset, Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. strongly discusses two kinds of mindsets which directly impact children developments. Fixed mindset parents praise on children’s intelligence and innate talents, and they want no error from their kids. In contrast, growth mindset parents praise the efforts and guide through failures. With all due respect, demanding and dictatorial parenting don’t work. Let’s open the new ways of communication
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Dweck points out differences between fixed and growth mindset parents. In which, how growth mindset parents can help and guide their children through tough times and adversity by helping children build a strong foundation through praising for effort, not intelligence, reassuring to become an independent, self-efficiency and proper discipline to right the wrongs are crucial.
All parents love to praise their children for everything that made them proud and happy. Children love to be praised as well. Praising can be described as encouragement, acknowledgment and supports toward a well perform the activities. Is it a good thing to do or worse? Dweck said, “Praising children’s intelligence harms their motivation and it harms their performance.” In which fixed mindset parents harm their children unintendedly. A real example, Seth Abrams wrote to Dweck: as a child, I was a member of The Gifted Child Society and continually praised for my intelligence. Now, after a lifetime of not living up to my potential (I’m 49). I’m learning to apply myself …show more content…
Discipline plays a major factor in determine on how a child’s future become. As the word describes the meaning of itself, parents think love need to pair with discipline. Coach Knight did not let the guilty parties ride back home with the rest of the team. They were no longer worthy of respectful treatment. (pg204) In addition, he yelled at Daryl and humiliated him without concerning about his feeling. As result, some players had escaped by transferring to other schools, by breaking the rule. (pg. 205) His fixed mindset discouraged and eliminated some potential team players. In contrast, the story about a teacher named Collins and her student Gary. Gary refused neither study nor participate in class. Collins didn’t send him home or discipline, instead she explained the good and bad so Gary could understand his situation and potential to improve himself. Gary was lucky to have a growth mindset teacher. He could have detention or expelled from school if his teacher was coach Knight. Most importantly, parents think children must be judge and punish when they make mistakes. They are teaching their children that if they go against the parents’ rules or values, they’ll be judged and punished. They’re not teaching their children how to think through the issues and come to ethical, mature decisions on their own. (pg187). A painful and embarrassing story of mine which still haunt me from
Dweck points out differences between fixed and growth mindset parents. In which, how growth mindset parents can help and guide their children through tough times and adversity by helping children build a strong foundation through praising for effort, not intelligence, reassuring to become an independent, self-efficiency and proper discipline to right the wrongs are crucial.
All parents love to praise their children for everything that made them proud and happy. Children love to be praised as well. Praising can be described as encouragement, acknowledgment and supports toward a well perform the activities. Is it a good thing to do or worse? Dweck said, “Praising children’s intelligence harms their motivation and it harms their performance.” In which fixed mindset parents harm their children unintendedly. A real example, Seth Abrams wrote to Dweck: as a child, I was a member of The Gifted Child Society and continually praised for my intelligence. Now, after a lifetime of not living up to my potential (I’m 49). I’m learning to apply myself …show more content…
Discipline plays a major factor in determine on how a child’s future become. As the word describes the meaning of itself, parents think love need to pair with discipline. Coach Knight did not let the guilty parties ride back home with the rest of the team. They were no longer worthy of respectful treatment. (pg204) In addition, he yelled at Daryl and humiliated him without concerning about his feeling. As result, some players had escaped by transferring to other schools, by breaking the rule. (pg. 205) His fixed mindset discouraged and eliminated some potential team players. In contrast, the story about a teacher named Collins and her student Gary. Gary refused neither study nor participate in class. Collins didn’t send him home or discipline, instead she explained the good and bad so Gary could understand his situation and potential to improve himself. Gary was lucky to have a growth mindset teacher. He could have detention or expelled from school if his teacher was coach Knight. Most importantly, parents think children must be judge and punish when they make mistakes. They are teaching their children that if they go against the parents’ rules or values, they’ll be judged and punished. They’re not teaching their children how to think through the issues and come to ethical, mature decisions on their own. (pg187). A painful and embarrassing story of mine which still haunt me from