Parenting is a thankless job, and there is no formal training for it in the education systems. On this point, Gordon makes a spectacular contribution in developing a program to train parents. Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) is a book for mothers and fathers who do not want their children to fire them as parents.
Dr. Thomas Gordon, who was a Nobel Peace Prize nominee, discusses in P.E.T. remedies for house violence and shows the way to a democratic peaceful house which consequently can bring world peace. Intriguing new thinking methodology in Gordon’s model relies on three techniques: active listening, I-Messages and no-lose conflict resolutions.
Surprisingly, the ineffective messages from parents to their children almost all begin with the word “You,” for example: “You are naughty.” …show more content…
It suggested that parents should just recognize that they cannot prevent their teenage children from smoking cigarettes and marijuana or having premarital sex. Gordon says that parents should accept such actions and do nothing! According to this negative strategy: imagine a parent enters his home to find his daughter doing such actions, and in return he just walks quietly to his room!! Though Gordon offers no helpful advice, there are strategies that others recommend to prevent teens from engaging in such harmful actions. Furthermore, such actions are taboo in some cultures, thus Gordon’s strategy is unrealistic and limited in scope for utterly liberal parents.
Even though, the book is rich with examples, some sections are tedious and there is a substantial need for comics to make the dialogues more compelling as in Fabers and Mazlish’s ‘How To Talk So Kids Can Learn’ book.
In conclusion, Gordon’s model is the foundation for many parenting programs and is in the references of many parenting books. His techniques are not manifest as they sound; nevertheless, they help the aloof parents and
Dr. Thomas Gordon, who was a Nobel Peace Prize nominee, discusses in P.E.T. remedies for house violence and shows the way to a democratic peaceful house which consequently can bring world peace. Intriguing new thinking methodology in Gordon’s model relies on three techniques: active listening, I-Messages and no-lose conflict resolutions.
Surprisingly, the ineffective messages from parents to their children almost all begin with the word “You,” for example: “You are naughty.” …show more content…
It suggested that parents should just recognize that they cannot prevent their teenage children from smoking cigarettes and marijuana or having premarital sex. Gordon says that parents should accept such actions and do nothing! According to this negative strategy: imagine a parent enters his home to find his daughter doing such actions, and in return he just walks quietly to his room!! Though Gordon offers no helpful advice, there are strategies that others recommend to prevent teens from engaging in such harmful actions. Furthermore, such actions are taboo in some cultures, thus Gordon’s strategy is unrealistic and limited in scope for utterly liberal parents.
Even though, the book is rich with examples, some sections are tedious and there is a substantial need for comics to make the dialogues more compelling as in Fabers and Mazlish’s ‘How To Talk So Kids Can Learn’ book.
In conclusion, Gordon’s model is the foundation for many parenting programs and is in the references of many parenting books. His techniques are not manifest as they sound; nevertheless, they help the aloof parents and