In the book Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, there were four principles to live by. This included: 1) be impeccable with your words, 2) don’t take anything personally, 3) don’t make assumptions and 4) always do your best.
One of the major lessons that I derived from the book was to speak with integrity, to say only what you mean and not use your words as a tool to spread false rumours or gossips that can hurt others but instead use it to spread the truth and love.
Secondly I learned another interesting lesson it states that, from a young age we are trained by our parents, teachers, our leaders in religion to live by a set of rules, be it our first language, our first school or the first set of values our parents instil in us. As children we have no say over these rules. We are rewarded when we do good and punished when we break the norm or the rules. This subsequently leads to generations of adults who are afraid of rejection and unwilling to question and negotiate the rules of society. For example, if we miss a deadline date for an assignment we mentally and physically berate ourselves, and in order to change this mentality we must adopt a new set of agreements.
Another lesson learned from the novel is that we …show more content…
We can do this by the following steps: 1) start noticing the beliefs that make us unhappy or afraid. For example we may believe in a certain value or norm but it makes you unhappy, so change it, learn a new agreement. 2) Learn to forgive those who have hurt you, as negative emotions can ruin your day. This allows you to move on instantly and free he parasitic emotions of hatred, anger and envy from the confines of your mind, and finally 3) remember the importance of each day. Each day contains 86400 seconds; each second lost will never be gotten back, so live each day how you decide, with new agreements to make yourself into the best version of
One of the major lessons that I derived from the book was to speak with integrity, to say only what you mean and not use your words as a tool to spread false rumours or gossips that can hurt others but instead use it to spread the truth and love.
Secondly I learned another interesting lesson it states that, from a young age we are trained by our parents, teachers, our leaders in religion to live by a set of rules, be it our first language, our first school or the first set of values our parents instil in us. As children we have no say over these rules. We are rewarded when we do good and punished when we break the norm or the rules. This subsequently leads to generations of adults who are afraid of rejection and unwilling to question and negotiate the rules of society. For example, if we miss a deadline date for an assignment we mentally and physically berate ourselves, and in order to change this mentality we must adopt a new set of agreements.
Another lesson learned from the novel is that we …show more content…
We can do this by the following steps: 1) start noticing the beliefs that make us unhappy or afraid. For example we may believe in a certain value or norm but it makes you unhappy, so change it, learn a new agreement. 2) Learn to forgive those who have hurt you, as negative emotions can ruin your day. This allows you to move on instantly and free he parasitic emotions of hatred, anger and envy from the confines of your mind, and finally 3) remember the importance of each day. Each day contains 86400 seconds; each second lost will never be gotten back, so live each day how you decide, with new agreements to make yourself into the best version of