Domestic Violence Effects On Children

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Domestic violence has a huge impact on women and children, if children are involved in domestic violence it impacts them just as much if not more than their mothers. Women involved normally suffer from depression and low self esteem, often lead to PTSD or another called Battered Wife Syndrome. The abuser is normally controlling in various ways such as, controlling when she sleeps, eats, what she wears, who are her friends, or even if she can have friends. The abuser can also keep any form of money in a way to keep her trapped, or even forbid her from working. Children that see domestic violence often have troubles in their own lives such as, social and emotional problems. Children’s behavioral problems often lead to tantrums more than normal …show more content…
Woman that are being abused are normally exhausted mentally and physically, when it comes to taking care of their child or children the mother is just too exhausted to care for the child or children. Mothers can often become hostile or extremely distant from their child, which is considered neglect. When a child doesn’t get love or affection as a baby they tend to be distant themselves, if you give a baby love and affection they are considered a “happy” baby. When a baby is happy they are able to be socialized and be comfortable with people and other babies. But when a child isn’t being loved it becomes antisocial and distant from other children. Its hard for mothers of domestic abuse to take care of their child when the mother doesn’t take care of herself. There are some cases where a woman of domestic abuse actually develops strength when having a child; it gives them a reason to leave the abuser. Mothers are supposed to be a child’s security or a safe haven, but when a mother isn’t mentally stable many things can happen to the child. The neglect towards the child can affect the child’s self esteem as they grow. There are times where the mother is so distant that if the child is being sexually abused she will ignore all the signs. Normally if the mother has no attachment to her child or children the urge to protect them is not there, leaving the child or children exposed to …show more content…
Unfortunately it’s a tough thing to do, you have to break away from what you seen all your life as “normal” and remake a new “normal”. Domestic violence is a life time thing, one of those things that will either make you or break you. That’s when you make the decision of how you want to live your life. You can follow in the footsteps of your mother or father or you can make your own path. I had someone tell me that you choose to be a victim, looking at it then I thought it was the rudest thing someone could say to a person who has been through abuse. But now I look at it and it makes so much more sense, back then I felt like my childhood was stolen and that I was a victim. But now that I have grown I realized that I did choose to be the victim, because I was hurt, weak, and angry. But when there is anger there is always pain underneath and lord knows I had so much pain. Abuse affects us in many ways; you just have to not look at yourself as a victim. Because anyone who goes through domestic abuse or sexual abuse is a warrior, or in my eyes someone that is stronger than they think. So do I agree with the term of domestic abuse is a life time, yes I do. But once you grow and you are out of the house it is time to control your own life, make sure that the abuse doesn’t consume you. Abuse

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