Domestic Violence Between My Family

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Dating back to early childhood, I recall my first memory as traumatizing. This occurrence has effected how I manage through intimate relationships. It has also impacted the manner in which I parent my children. Around age 4, I witnessed domestic violence between my parents. These disputes included physical and verbal abuse between my biological father and mother. Theses instances inscribed the notion that I would never marry. I vividly remembering riding my bike in front of my home saying, “I will never get married after.” It was my held belief that all marriages involved negative and unhealthy encounters. I lied in bed with my sister sobbing while she would rub my back and say, “It is going to be okay, I have you.” Loud voices, fighting, …show more content…
She disciplined us physically and yelled frequently. As children, my sister and I did not have a voice. We were unable to express our concerns or request for things to be done differently. My mother was very controlling and the dominant force in the relationship with my father. Although my father was the breadwinner, my mother made choices for our family. My father was passive and rarely challenged my mother. My parents were always supportive of our goals, dreams, and aspirations. They ensured that we were involved in various activities at young ages. They always supported every facet of our lives dating to early childhood. I played the piano, started cheerleading at age 4, and was an active participant in a large baton twirling agency that competed nationally. I was afforded the opportunity to engage with children from different backgrounds and socioeconomic classes. This played an integral role in how I choose to participate in various activities during my years in elementary, high school and …show more content…
My mother allowed me to have boyfriends and had open dialogue about my relationships. In eighth grade, she allowed me to go on double dates with my sister and her boyfriend. I realize that she had immense trust in us at early ages. She openly communicated with us about sex, intimacy, and respect we should always have for ourselves. She provided a great role model for to us to understand how a women demands respect from others through their actions. I always knew I could come to my mom with concerns regarding friends and boyfriends. She also fostered relationships with my boyfriend’s parents. It was important for my mom to know intimate details about the person I was dating and their families. She taught me to be aware of one’s background, environment, and values of their family structure to understand how I would be treated in relationships. I have carried this notion into adulthood. This openness, along with the ceremonial ring ceremony, proved beneficial for my life. I lacked the desire to engage in sexual activity at an early age. I understood the importance of true love and respecting my body as a

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