The charter believed that she need to change her appearance because she was not worthy for being the person she was due to a classmate commenting on her body type, saying You have a big nose and fat legs”. (Piercy, p. 189) The same person who may have had concerns of his or her own body image or even worst their whole self.
When a person who has been verbally abused by someone, the person may have the need to change into that persons ideas of what is the prefect image for another person, even if it meant self-destruction and giving the other person permission to abuse and write the ending of one’s life story.
On the other hand you have Domestic abuser who has the need to control another person because of not having control over him or herself or who are out of control because they are not happy with themselves, and have the need to project their feeling and emotions on someone