Analysis Of Why Don T You Just Leave

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Abuse comes in many different forms, both physical and mental, and it often occurs from people we initially trust to treat us well. (Why Don’t You Just Leave?). It is often brought up that the victim of domestic abuse would be better off if they left their abuser and moved on with their lives. While this blanket statement appears harmless and logical, it is a long term solution and, contrary to popular belief, actually poses greater risk to the victim in the short term. Horror stories of victims leaving their abusers only to be confronted with violence and further abuse from the very same person they sought to escape, is the reality many victims are faced with when they consider leaving an abuser. Fear, humiliation, and shame are the strongest …show more content…
The transgender community is often the target of much hatred due to the lack of understanding and lack of acceptance of what being transgender means. It is believed by many that it is a choice to be transgender, rather than a genetic mistake that takes place during pregnancy and at birth. Transgender males and females are faced with inequalities that prevent them from living lives that the cisgender community would deem normal. For example, deciding on which bathroom to use as a transgender individual becomes a much tougher decision than is normal, and is often a sensitive area of discussion. In schools particularly, the staff and students do not want transgender females to use the female restroom, but using the male restroom will most certainly result in bullying from their peers. The difficulty in adapting to societies standards for what men and woman should be leaves many trans-gendered people feeling isolated and out of place. 41% of trans-gendered people have attempted suicide, a rate that is higher than any other group. Abuse is not limited to any one group or one particular gender. The truth is that abuse can affect anyone, but that those that are viewed as different or as freaks are the ones that suffer from abusive actions the most. In order for American society to overcome social problems is to do away with stigmas and standards that segregate and blame those who do not fit societies

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