Effects Of Divorce

Divorce and its effects
Most of us, at least one time in our life, will have experience with the term "divorce", even if it is with your experience or someone else. Do you ever think, ask, or carefully listen and feel what they feel when they go through those time? I could bravely answer that question as a person who go through all of those hard time because of my closest friend. At what I am understanding, the term "divorce" mean to me as a change which will limit or stop two people from having responsible to each other’s life and free their life from a cage called "marriage". My friend, she is just like a beauty little bird, which got released from the cage to go back to her life, yes it free, but it hard to live at first when she is back …show more content…
And because it is too common to people life, so we will not put any serious eye or attention on it, and it star to spread out with no control. To support this idea, the article “The Making of the Divorce Culture” by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead state that “It is embedded in our laws and institutions, our manners and mores, our movies and television shows, our novels and children 's storybooks, and our closest and most important relationships.” Also in our modern society, people are, more than ever, expressing their wishes, thoughts and their personality. Along with it is they respect their ego a lot more rather than family happiness which will easier to develop the conflict in family life and cause the divorcement. That also happened to my closest friend. She marries to her husband after she graduate and get her degree. After the wedding, she gave up her chance on her career to focus on their small family, as well as to takes care of their parents. Her marriage’s life does not as smooth as she wishes. Her husband, after their marriage, gets his big trump on is career. No later than two months after the wedding, he got promoted to a higher position from the company, and he tends to goes out more and more because of his meeting with the company’s partners. He is a lively and dynamic person at work, but a bad and passive husband and dad in his family. He often and likes to goes on the vacation …show more content…
As we find our answer to this main question, we have to consider what should we do or what can we do if we think or have an idea of getting divorce. In this case, running for a professional advice or an advice from your close or relative person will help a lot. Except for the close people, asking a stranger to listen and make comment on your relationship’s issue will also help, because they do not have any role on your life or your partner’s life then they could make the true, clearest and most effective common on both people. After consider all of these advice and common, we should be able to make the right choice for our life. In my friend 's situation, after the decide of divorce, she goes to talk to both parent and her close and relative people about her issue, and asks for comments and advices from them. At both her husband’s parent opinion, they show their empathy and compassion for her situation. They all know how lacking of responsibility their child is through their weekly family meeting. They do not object her if she decides to divorce, but they do want her to think back before making any decision because of her family and their grandchildren. And in her parent, they want nothing more than their child’s happiness, so they support her with whatever decision she makes. As her closest friend, I also have my own views