Discipline And Structure Of My Family

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My family did many activities together on a regular basis. I experienced no extreme conflict with my parents and had normal sibling disputes with my brother. There were things about my family that I did not discover until I was around nineteen years old. My father was a severe alcoholic, spending hundreds of dollars a week in liquor. He was what is considered a functioning alcoholic. “The functioning alcoholic is the alcoholic who can hold down a job, pursue a career or care for children while continuing his or her alcoholism.” (Neill) My father was very active and well liked in his community. He made a lifelong career out of being a truck driving to support his family. Growing up as a child, I was unaware of his problem with drinking. To my knowledge, my father only drank socially. Sometimes, there would be cans of beer in our refrigerator for months before my mother would throw it out. Only on occasion, would I notice a liquor bottle or two in the cabinet. As I grew older, I began to learn things were not as blissful as they appeared. My parents struggled quite a bit with their marriage. However, they still maintained structure and bliss. They would fight quite often, but never in front of my brother and I. As a child, I cannot remember a single argument between the two of them. I was extremely close to my father and favored him over my mother as a child. He was always available for me whenever I needed him. I held him …show more content…
My parents divorced about three years ago due to my father’s infidelity. Over the past three years, I have seen him become a pathetical liar, a mantic depressive, violent towards others, and has distant himself from his family. Some of these things my mother dealt with throughout my entire childhood. My father is still a functioning alcoholic. He is still very well liked in the community, holds his truck driving job, and is even helping to raise his new wife’s child. Many are unaware of his severe drinking problem. My father taught me self discipline and emotional control when I was a child, and those valuable lessons are now helping me as an adult with the challenges of watching my best friend fade out of my life. I credit so much of who I am to how he morally shaped me. Those lessons he taught me as a child are what I am using now to prevent him from negatively impacting me or my family. Blanco’s statement, “Children of alcoholic parents suffer from a variety of problems directly linked to their parents’ alcohol abuse” (Blanco pg 54) really showed her ignorance to the situation she was writing about. My alcoholic father has helped me become a strong, positive, independent, outgoing, and optimistic person. Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. Having a positive mental attitude is indispensable for success and happiness. You are constantly faced with challenges,

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