My difficult conversation occurred over my summer going into senior year of high school. I had been working at my town’s local pizza restaurant for nearly two years at that point. Since starting there, I had yet to receive a raise and I felt that I had earned a raise from my work over the previous two years. I started by talking to my friend and colleague, Jon. Jon started working at the restaurant a few months after I did and when I talked him, he informed me he received a raise a few months ago. This made me upset and is probably what led to a conversation with my manager, which I could’ve handled better, from a professional and ethics perspective.
As one can read, my difficult conversation did not go in the direction I would’ve …show more content…
Without knowing it at the time, I was a message deliverer. Being a message deliverer is when you want to prove a point and get the other person to do what you want (Leigh, 2016, slide 14). This is something, which I should try and avoid moving forward because it usually ends up backfiring and not working out the way it’s intended too. I walked into the conversation trying to prove a point instead of just having a conversation. This is clear as I opened the conversation with an advocacy. I “explicitly asserted my opinion” (Leigh, 2017, slide 5) in the first line of dialogue. As we have learned in class this can result in an advocacy ping back and fourth. What this means is, instead of both sides having healthy dialogue back and fourth, each side will just advocate their opinion. This rarely results in a productive conversation (Leigh, 2017, …show more content…
In the middle of the conversation I again tried to illustrate a story on why I deserved a raise when I talked about learning the cash register. The conversation was in an advocacy ping back and fourth though, and because of this the illustration carried no weight. Reflecting back on the conversation, I also did not word my illustration in a professional manor. Towards the end of my conversation I said “Jon got a raise after only a year in a half”, this is another advocacy and is also an example of distributive justice. Distributive justice is “the extent to which society’s institutions ensure that benefits and burdens are distributed in ways that are fair and just (Leigh, 2017, slide 9). If this were today, I would completely remove saying that from the conversation. Every person is different and saying something like that was not ethical and also put my boss in an even more defensive
As one can read, my difficult conversation did not go in the direction I would’ve …show more content…
Without knowing it at the time, I was a message deliverer. Being a message deliverer is when you want to prove a point and get the other person to do what you want (Leigh, 2016, slide 14). This is something, which I should try and avoid moving forward because it usually ends up backfiring and not working out the way it’s intended too. I walked into the conversation trying to prove a point instead of just having a conversation. This is clear as I opened the conversation with an advocacy. I “explicitly asserted my opinion” (Leigh, 2017, slide 5) in the first line of dialogue. As we have learned in class this can result in an advocacy ping back and fourth. What this means is, instead of both sides having healthy dialogue back and fourth, each side will just advocate their opinion. This rarely results in a productive conversation (Leigh, 2017, …show more content…
In the middle of the conversation I again tried to illustrate a story on why I deserved a raise when I talked about learning the cash register. The conversation was in an advocacy ping back and fourth though, and because of this the illustration carried no weight. Reflecting back on the conversation, I also did not word my illustration in a professional manor. Towards the end of my conversation I said “Jon got a raise after only a year in a half”, this is another advocacy and is also an example of distributive justice. Distributive justice is “the extent to which society’s institutions ensure that benefits and burdens are distributed in ways that are fair and just (Leigh, 2017, slide 9). If this were today, I would completely remove saying that from the conversation. Every person is different and saying something like that was not ethical and also put my boss in an even more defensive