Americans are fascinated with the concept of teen parenting. If you’ve ever seen 16 and Pregnant or Teen Mom on MTV it is shown the glorified images of the reality of teen parents. It has become a nation topic not with actual concern but, in ridiculing those who wind up pregnant at such a young age for entertainment. While, there are commercials and ads that shame teen parents such as, “You should be saving the world not diapers,” it fails to ignore the damages these words have on young parents. These teen mothers on the reality TVs shows are glorified and filled with unnecessary drama. The reality of teen parenting is much more complicated than the simplicity shown in the media. The social bonds that attach teenagers to healthy lifestyles
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My two best friends during this time were both living with their boyfriends also both significantly older than them as well. Any of the people I associated with on a weekly basis were people who were going down the same slippery slope I was headed down, doing drugs, dropouts, partying every day, drinking, stealing, and fighting. My attachment and commitment was to my boyfriend and friends, not to a better education or a healthy family life. The lack of necessary social control mechanisms that Hirshi insists creates conformity existed in my life. I had no attachment, commitment or involvement in family, school, or any healthy activity so, before I got pregnant I already existed in a place of nonconformity. While, it is my actions that ended up causing me to get pregnant, it was really the lack of healthy social bonds, or the rebellion against them that linger as an underlying cause of my …show more content…
I hear the least ridicule from my family, whom I think they all are just glad I have turned my life around. Although, I’m a teen mother since, I graduated a year early, I’m in college, I’m moving out soon, and I love my son more than anything. I am happier with my life now with my son than I’ve ever been in my entire life. While, initially, I knew that my friends and classmates weren’t exactly supportive to say the least because, I ended up proving everyone wrong. So, people have a higher respect for me now that I have shown how strong I can be. That’s one of the biggest reasons I push myself, it to prove people wrong not by what I say but, what I do. But, I am still have the sticky label of being a teen mother with a kid. I have way less friends than I did before and, most of the people my age don’t understand the very reality of being a parent. Then, in the future my son will be grown up when the majority of my age group begins to have kids so, I’ll still have this image. The label of a teen mother will be known going to any event for my child because the other mothers are several years older than me and, will continue to stay that way for years to come. Some older mothers I personally know who were teen mothers in the past stated how you’ll always be the youngest
My two best friends during this time were both living with their boyfriends also both significantly older than them as well. Any of the people I associated with on a weekly basis were people who were going down the same slippery slope I was headed down, doing drugs, dropouts, partying every day, drinking, stealing, and fighting. My attachment and commitment was to my boyfriend and friends, not to a better education or a healthy family life. The lack of necessary social control mechanisms that Hirshi insists creates conformity existed in my life. I had no attachment, commitment or involvement in family, school, or any healthy activity so, before I got pregnant I already existed in a place of nonconformity. While, it is my actions that ended up causing me to get pregnant, it was really the lack of healthy social bonds, or the rebellion against them that linger as an underlying cause of my …show more content…
I hear the least ridicule from my family, whom I think they all are just glad I have turned my life around. Although, I’m a teen mother since, I graduated a year early, I’m in college, I’m moving out soon, and I love my son more than anything. I am happier with my life now with my son than I’ve ever been in my entire life. While, initially, I knew that my friends and classmates weren’t exactly supportive to say the least because, I ended up proving everyone wrong. So, people have a higher respect for me now that I have shown how strong I can be. That’s one of the biggest reasons I push myself, it to prove people wrong not by what I say but, what I do. But, I am still have the sticky label of being a teen mother with a kid. I have way less friends than I did before and, most of the people my age don’t understand the very reality of being a parent. Then, in the future my son will be grown up when the majority of my age group begins to have kids so, I’ll still have this image. The label of a teen mother will be known going to any event for my child because the other mothers are several years older than me and, will continue to stay that way for years to come. Some older mothers I personally know who were teen mothers in the past stated how you’ll always be the youngest