Essay on Depression

682 Words Jul 5th, 2014 3 Pages
What are the positive things you can say and do to help someone with depression? Here are some ideas written by someone who has experienced deep depression and been helped greatly by family and friends.
1. Be On Their Side * Someone with depression will often get defensive, so an accusatory tone is not helpful. Try to convey a sense of understanding. It isn’t helpful to say “Why can’t you just get out of bed?” Instead try “You seem to have trouble getting out of bed in the mornings. What can I do to help you in this area?” * The person may have lost perspective on how big a problem actually is. They will find it hard to hear that what is insurmountable for them is actually not such a big deal. It is unhelpful to say “What’s your
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Pointing it out to them is not helpful. Instead, try to sympathize. * “I can’t imagine how hard it is for you, but you have all my sympathy.” * “All I want to do is give you a hug and a shoulder to cry on.” * “I can’t honestly say that I know how you feel, but I want to help in any way I can.”
4. Offer to Help * “Let me do anything you need me to do to help.” * If you ask “What is the best thing I can do to help you right now?” don’t be offended if the reply is “Leave me alone”. Helping someone with depression can sometimes mean doing nothing. On the other hand, depression can leave a person feeling incapable of even the simplest tasks. Offering some practical help, like picking up things from the shops, could provide them with great relief. * Well meaning people often attempt to immediately fix the problem. “Have you tried aromatherapy? There was an article about it in the paper…” . This kind of comment can come across as trivializing the illness. If you want to introduce a treatment idea, make sure you are respectful about the seriousness of depression. “It’s important that you stay on your medication and keep seeing your doctor. I’ve found some information on aromatherapy. Would you like to look into it with me?” * While it is important to accept the person in the state they are in, don’t let it totally consume your life. Otherwise, you’ll fall in a heap and won’t be much help to

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