Forgiveness
Not forgiving someone can be like allowing dust bunnies to pile up in a house. It is bothersome and most of all, unhealthy. Forgiveness acts like a vacuum that sucks up all the dust, discards it in a trash can and leaves the house spick-and-span. Forgiveness can be defined as the process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. It differs from condoning, pardoning, excusing and reconciliation. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives, in terms of the person forgiven and/or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver …show more content…
Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one,” (Beecher) clarifies that along with forgiveness, “forgetting” the incident must follow. Forgetting the incident means deciding to never bring up the incident; it is a crucial part in the forgiveness process. Repression of bitter feelings usually surface as sadness and depression. Forgiveness makes us happier and easily sustains friendships. Happy people forgive more than others and the simple act of forgiving someone creates joy for both the forgiver and forgiven. When someone holds a grudge with their friend, they are less likely to sacrifice or cooperate with them, driving the two further apart. Studies have shown that forgiveness can repair the relationship before it dissolves.
Forgiveness has helped mend relationships between genocide survivors and their perpetrators. In fact, after the Rwandan genocide had taken place, many Hutu perpetrators asked for forgiveness to Tutsi survivors who had pulled through the tragic event. More than half of the survivors granted them pardon, with some reconciling and today, peace reigns among the two ethnic groups. Forgiveness helped the two clans overcome their tumultuous past and lean towards helping one
Not forgiving someone can be like allowing dust bunnies to pile up in a house. It is bothersome and most of all, unhealthy. Forgiveness acts like a vacuum that sucks up all the dust, discards it in a trash can and leaves the house spick-and-span. Forgiveness can be defined as the process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. It differs from condoning, pardoning, excusing and reconciliation. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives, in terms of the person forgiven and/or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver …show more content…
Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one,” (Beecher) clarifies that along with forgiveness, “forgetting” the incident must follow. Forgetting the incident means deciding to never bring up the incident; it is a crucial part in the forgiveness process. Repression of bitter feelings usually surface as sadness and depression. Forgiveness makes us happier and easily sustains friendships. Happy people forgive more than others and the simple act of forgiving someone creates joy for both the forgiver and forgiven. When someone holds a grudge with their friend, they are less likely to sacrifice or cooperate with them, driving the two further apart. Studies have shown that forgiveness can repair the relationship before it dissolves.
Forgiveness has helped mend relationships between genocide survivors and their perpetrators. In fact, after the Rwandan genocide had taken place, many Hutu perpetrators asked for forgiveness to Tutsi survivors who had pulled through the tragic event. More than half of the survivors granted them pardon, with some reconciling and today, peace reigns among the two ethnic groups. Forgiveness helped the two clans overcome their tumultuous past and lean towards helping one