Usually I obey the traffic laws while driving, However, I tend sometimes to break small rules when I find myself in a situation that I think allow me to do so. For example when someone is driving so slow on the far left side of the road and keeps you waiting forever or force you to overtake him from the right side.
I find myself reasonable when doing so and I don't feel bad about it because it is not my intention to break the law of overtaking only from the left side.
However, sometimes it happens that a person does the same with me, and tries to overtake me from the right side. So I jump always to the conclusion that he is being an idiot or careless, and I start to feel pissed off and sometimes I try to communicate with the driver to express …show more content…
A small car comes up from behind me, zigzagging between the cars, travelling too fast. He cut in front of me, almost hit my car from front. Hanging his head out the window, he yells something at me and speed away.
My first though was "What a crazy and rude!", as I thought it is inappropriate to violate the traffic rules like that and risking other people's life. So judging from his way of driving and the kind of the car I knew that this person is clearly crazy and should not be granted a driving license. So, of course, I felt so strongly that I should reply back and yell at him or giving him a hand gesture.
So here is how I climbed the ladder of inference:
• Reality and facts: Well, witnessing the behavior of the aggressive driver by itself is not a biased activity. And it is the only fact I have about what happened.
• Selected Reality: I applied my filters and assumptions about proper highway etiquette and rules. I created assumptions about which part was important of the story. Those assumptions are based on how things that I witnessed affected me. Forgetting how might a person from some culture not understand how important an event that occurs in another country's culture.
• Interpreted Reality: Here, I implied meaning using my standard or my culture's …show more content…
And for sure I immediately started to have feelings about my conclusions.
• Beliefs: at his point, and depending on my conclusions, I realized that there are things that out of alignment within the world around me. And I was getting feelings about the event. And at this moment, I decided that some sort of action should be taken whether it is physical or spoken words or any other type of actions.
• Actions: Here I was fully aware of the situation, and I took action: I opened the window and start shouting at the other driver back with what I believe is appropriate based on my conclusions about the event. Which was, of course, emotional more than a rational reaction.
This climbing of the ladder happened in milliseconds. and It might happen to me many times during the week.
I believe that I climbed this ladder thousands of times during my life, not only while driving my car, but also when having an argument or discussion with other people. but it is amazing when you start to realize how your mind is climbing step by step and reach a
I find myself reasonable when doing so and I don't feel bad about it because it is not my intention to break the law of overtaking only from the left side.
However, sometimes it happens that a person does the same with me, and tries to overtake me from the right side. So I jump always to the conclusion that he is being an idiot or careless, and I start to feel pissed off and sometimes I try to communicate with the driver to express …show more content…
A small car comes up from behind me, zigzagging between the cars, travelling too fast. He cut in front of me, almost hit my car from front. Hanging his head out the window, he yells something at me and speed away.
My first though was "What a crazy and rude!", as I thought it is inappropriate to violate the traffic rules like that and risking other people's life. So judging from his way of driving and the kind of the car I knew that this person is clearly crazy and should not be granted a driving license. So, of course, I felt so strongly that I should reply back and yell at him or giving him a hand gesture.
So here is how I climbed the ladder of inference:
• Reality and facts: Well, witnessing the behavior of the aggressive driver by itself is not a biased activity. And it is the only fact I have about what happened.
• Selected Reality: I applied my filters and assumptions about proper highway etiquette and rules. I created assumptions about which part was important of the story. Those assumptions are based on how things that I witnessed affected me. Forgetting how might a person from some culture not understand how important an event that occurs in another country's culture.
• Interpreted Reality: Here, I implied meaning using my standard or my culture's …show more content…
And for sure I immediately started to have feelings about my conclusions.
• Beliefs: at his point, and depending on my conclusions, I realized that there are things that out of alignment within the world around me. And I was getting feelings about the event. And at this moment, I decided that some sort of action should be taken whether it is physical or spoken words or any other type of actions.
• Actions: Here I was fully aware of the situation, and I took action: I opened the window and start shouting at the other driver back with what I believe is appropriate based on my conclusions about the event. Which was, of course, emotional more than a rational reaction.
This climbing of the ladder happened in milliseconds. and It might happen to me many times during the week.
I believe that I climbed this ladder thousands of times during my life, not only while driving my car, but also when having an argument or discussion with other people. but it is amazing when you start to realize how your mind is climbing step by step and reach a