I think that the overall theme of my memoir, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family by Dan Savage is follow your heart. Savage’s memoir focuses on the events leading up to his and Terry’s (Savage’s partner) agreement on finally getting married. The couple’s long debate on marriage was due to a number of things such as Terry’s desire of not acting like heterosexuals, Dan’s fear of his happy relationship being jinxed and ending in a break-up, and D.J. opposing his two dads’ marriage reasoning it gross and a no-no. In the end, the gay couple headed up to Canada to say their vows. The two winded up getting married because they didn’t want to let down D.J (he asked his dads to promise they would get married after accepting that two men
