Crazy Love Analysis

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Many women are trapped in abusive relationships. Leslie Morgan Steiner, the author of Crazy Love, calls it “a physical and psychological trap disguised as love.” In her Ted Talk, she points out questions that most people don’t comprehend and always ask: “Why does she stay [in abusive relationships]? Why doesn’t she just leave ?” However, most people do not realize the reality of this problem is much more complicated. According to Domestic Abuse Shelter, it generally takes women seven times attempts to leave an abusive relationship before they leave successfully. Furthermore, over 70 percent abused women were killed by their male partners as they attempted to end or after they ended abusive relationships. On average, 4,000 women die every year …show more content…
According to Steiner, she had a great time with her ex-husband Conor at the beginning. Conor listened everything to her to make her believe she was the dominant one in this relationship. Here was no signs of domestic violence at all. However, she didn’t know what she experienced was the first stage of domestic violence — honeymoon period. Days later, after they knew each other well, Conor did several strange things. At first, he persuaded Steiner to quit her dream job to move to a small town in New England with him. And once they moved to there, Conor started to use guns to threat Steiner. She points out those actions are the next step in domestic violence — tension building. Conor did those things in order to isolate her, to “introduce the threat of violence, and see how she reacts.” Once the cycle moved forward to the violence stage, Conor started to physically attack her, like punched her and squeezed her …show more content…
According to Domestic Abuse Information, most children who witness domestic violence suffer from physical and emotional problems, including eating disorders, depression, and PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). As Jay tells his story, who grew up in a violent family, he says “I’m now 13 years old and decided to find more about domestic abuse because it has not been long since I started to realize the horror I faced when I was young. Has it affected me? In ways yes. Last year I began self-harming to get rid of the emotional pain I was going through. I felt I had no one to talk to. With help from my friends I am getting better but it 's a long road.

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