Couples Interview Couples are an interesting family dynamic and, in this profession, counselors will experience working with many different types of couples. Personally, I have worked with couples who are enduring relationship difficulties. The challenges that they face are many, yet I believe counseling is a great resource for couples to discuss their issues with a third party and strengthen their relationship. I decided to interview a couple I know fairly well but wanted to learn more about how they come together and how they manage different aspects of their life.
Demographics
When I sat down with the couple, they sat next to each other at a table. They were close to each other, but not touching. Their body language was open and inviting …show more content…
Both were not looking for a relationship but decided it would be fun to go on a blind date that a mutual friend set up. The couple notes that today, this does not seem so different because of online dating, but at the time it, was a scary and exciting experience. S explained that A’s looks captured him initially, but that their conversation and the date went so well he became really interested. A agreed and explained that S’s appearance was the first thing she noticed, but she really was attracted to how “gentlemanly” S was and how nice he treated her. Throughout dating, the couple did not find many obstacles to being together; in fact, they found their relationship was natural and easy. I could tell the couple fondly remembered the beginning of their relationship as they smiled and their eyes widened when discussing these details. Although they have been together for over 20 years, after careful thought, S stated that he would not change anything about A. However, A said the only thing she would change is S’s driving. She explains he drives as if he were a “vigilante,” speeding, weaving in and out of slower drivers, and can get easily annoyed on the …show more content…
Through this interview, I learned that common thoughts and support are two important factors a couple needs to survive. I found that this couple had a similar outlook on life, had corresponding values, and supported each other through life’s ups and downs. I can see these concepts allow for a supportive and loving relationship among the couple. I think that identifying the ideas of common life goals and values with future clients will be beneficial to working on the couple relationship in counseling. Through this interview, I also learned that life events often impact a couple’s relationship, requiring change and growth. If the couple cannot manage these events, counseling may be helpful. Overall, I was happy to interview S and A to learn more about the dynamics of the couple
Demographics
When I sat down with the couple, they sat next to each other at a table. They were close to each other, but not touching. Their body language was open and inviting …show more content…
Both were not looking for a relationship but decided it would be fun to go on a blind date that a mutual friend set up. The couple notes that today, this does not seem so different because of online dating, but at the time it, was a scary and exciting experience. S explained that A’s looks captured him initially, but that their conversation and the date went so well he became really interested. A agreed and explained that S’s appearance was the first thing she noticed, but she really was attracted to how “gentlemanly” S was and how nice he treated her. Throughout dating, the couple did not find many obstacles to being together; in fact, they found their relationship was natural and easy. I could tell the couple fondly remembered the beginning of their relationship as they smiled and their eyes widened when discussing these details. Although they have been together for over 20 years, after careful thought, S stated that he would not change anything about A. However, A said the only thing she would change is S’s driving. She explains he drives as if he were a “vigilante,” speeding, weaving in and out of slower drivers, and can get easily annoyed on the …show more content…
Through this interview, I learned that common thoughts and support are two important factors a couple needs to survive. I found that this couple had a similar outlook on life, had corresponding values, and supported each other through life’s ups and downs. I can see these concepts allow for a supportive and loving relationship among the couple. I think that identifying the ideas of common life goals and values with future clients will be beneficial to working on the couple relationship in counseling. Through this interview, I also learned that life events often impact a couple’s relationship, requiring change and growth. If the couple cannot manage these events, counseling may be helpful. Overall, I was happy to interview S and A to learn more about the dynamics of the couple