The Importance Of Advice In Shakespeare's Romeo And Juliet

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In emotional situations, people often ask for advice or opinions from people who they trust. Despite their best intentions, advice or opinions given in the name of love, can often result in unintended consequences. In the play Romeo and Juliet, written by William Shakespeare, Nurse is faced with a difficult decision when Juliet seeks her advice on how to prevent an arranged marriage with Paris. Nurse’s loving advice for Juliet results in Juliet’s suicidal thoughts.
Throughout the play Nurse’s main goal is to ensure Juliet’s happiness, but her opinion about what will make Juliet happy changes in Act III, Scene V. Before then, Nurse supported Juliet in her efforts to be a wife to Romeo. She knew about Juliet’s marriage and was able to keep their
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After Nurse tells Juliet to forget about Romeo, it suddenly occurs to Juliet that Nurse does not understand the love that she shares with Romeo. Juliet then pretends to realize what she has done wrong and tells Nurse to go and tell Lady Capulet that she has gone to Friar Lawrence to confess to her sin of disobeying her father. Nurse enthusiastically runs off to share the information while Juliet reveals her true attitude towards Nurse …show more content…
The fact that Nurse is encouraging her to break her previous marriage vows with Romeo or that she is dispraising Romeo, even though she has expressed her adoration towards him many times before. Juliet then states that she no longer trusts the Nurse with the secrets of her heart when she says, “Thou and my bosom henceforth shall be twain.” This emphasizes the fact that Juliet had a strong bond with Nurse and that at this moment, Juliet feels as though Nurse is betraying her. This betrayal by the nurse left Juliet alone to make her own decisions. Juliet, no longer having anyone to guide her, places her trust in Friar Lawrence: “I’ll to the friar to know his remedy. / If all else fail, myself have power to die.” She trusts that Friar Lawrence will have a remedy but she also trusts herself. If he cannot help her, Juliet she says that she has the strength to kill herself. This strong concluding statement confirms that Juliet has rejected Nurse’s advice and considers life with Romeo as her only option, other than

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