We all encounter some type of conflict at least once in our life whether we would like to or not. And we all react in different ways using different methods to address the conflict. Everyone has experienced a moment where his or her wants and desires were challenged. The ways we approach conflict can have several different impacts, good and bad. Throughout this paper I’m going to analyze conflict and how the different conflict styles can affect our desires and wants while also reflecting on my own conflict experiences and how they relate to the different styles.
Conflict is the interaction between interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the in achieving their goals (Coles Cone 2016). In …show more content…
Avoidance is ignoring the conflict and acting as if nothing is wrong (McCornack 2016). Acting like a conflict does not exist usually is easier for people rather than confronting the source of that conflict. Although avoidance may seem easier than confrontation, there are downsides to the avoidance style such as cumulative annoyance and pseudo-conflict. Cumulative annoyance is when repressed irritation grows as the mental list of issues we have against someone (Peterson, 2002). We repress issues so long to the point where one day we just lash out in anger against that person. Pseudo-Conflict is when you believe that a conflict exists when the conflict in question does not exist. Despite the downsides of avoidance, there are some pros. Avoiding conflict when the individuals involved are on edge is best because engaging in confrontation could result in things being said that could be detrimental to the relationship in the long run. In regards to avoidance, the costs outweigh the rewards, so it’s best to address the conflict at …show more content…
Competition is an open and clear discussion of the goal clash that exists and the pursuit of one’s own goals without regard for others’ goals (Sillars, 1980). Some of the characteristics of competition are personal criticism, rejection, and hostile imperatives. Competition is motived by negative thoughts and beliefs, and a willingness to harm others in order to gain (Bevan, Finan, & Kaminsky, 2008; Zacchilli et al., 2009The primary risk involved with competition is the threat of escalation. If a conflict escalates emotions are intensified and conflict becomes less easy to handle. ). Competition is common among males involved in a conflict where both males want to prove they are the true alpha male by not backing down and sticking with their stance. Competition does not lead to victories for anyone, only stalemates. Competition is the worst way to handle conflict. Using completion is a lose-lose situation for both people because no one is willing to back down from their stance and that can ultimately lead to bigger issues and more
Conflict is the interaction between interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the in achieving their goals (Coles Cone 2016). In …show more content…
Avoidance is ignoring the conflict and acting as if nothing is wrong (McCornack 2016). Acting like a conflict does not exist usually is easier for people rather than confronting the source of that conflict. Although avoidance may seem easier than confrontation, there are downsides to the avoidance style such as cumulative annoyance and pseudo-conflict. Cumulative annoyance is when repressed irritation grows as the mental list of issues we have against someone (Peterson, 2002). We repress issues so long to the point where one day we just lash out in anger against that person. Pseudo-Conflict is when you believe that a conflict exists when the conflict in question does not exist. Despite the downsides of avoidance, there are some pros. Avoiding conflict when the individuals involved are on edge is best because engaging in confrontation could result in things being said that could be detrimental to the relationship in the long run. In regards to avoidance, the costs outweigh the rewards, so it’s best to address the conflict at …show more content…
Competition is an open and clear discussion of the goal clash that exists and the pursuit of one’s own goals without regard for others’ goals (Sillars, 1980). Some of the characteristics of competition are personal criticism, rejection, and hostile imperatives. Competition is motived by negative thoughts and beliefs, and a willingness to harm others in order to gain (Bevan, Finan, & Kaminsky, 2008; Zacchilli et al., 2009The primary risk involved with competition is the threat of escalation. If a conflict escalates emotions are intensified and conflict becomes less easy to handle. ). Competition is common among males involved in a conflict where both males want to prove they are the true alpha male by not backing down and sticking with their stance. Competition does not lead to victories for anyone, only stalemates. Competition is the worst way to handle conflict. Using completion is a lose-lose situation for both people because no one is willing to back down from their stance and that can ultimately lead to bigger issues and more