1. Destructive conflict
The author stated “any conflict that begins with you always, or you never is likely to have a destructive effect”. Phrases that trigger conflict in a relationship are what’s wrong with you, I’m sorry if…, what are you getting so upset, and I always do everything you never help me out. I’ve been married for 20 years and according to the text book research, women criticize more than men do in marital conflict. However I recognized that these words and phrases are in the center of my relational dialoguing. Through personal observation, at the times of disagreements that led to conflict, unconsciously my words and phrases were toxic. Instead of using toxic or destructive words in my conversations I will replicate through practice constructive complaints.
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Cultural Filters
In reading the Lens Model of Conflict, it deals with self, others, and relationship. There was a decision involving our daughter, Alexis. Tommy said that we would represent our family at my grandmother’s funeral, but I decided to make arrangements for our daughter to come home. This caused a division in our communication.
2. Positive Views of Conflict
We, husband and wife, had differences of opinions when it came to raising our children because one parent was raised in a dual parent home and the other was raised in a single parent home. In spite of the differences, we were able to make decisions on the disciplinary process and education of our children. This helped them to become well rounded and productive citizens of society.
3. Conflict Is a Game
In playing a game of horse with my wife and daughter, it became apparent that they were not going to win, because the better player was going to give them the challenge of their life. The best player would dribble the ball all over the court, while the other players would chase him becoming tired and exhausted. In the end, the best player would win, leaving the other players defeated and
The author stated “any conflict that begins with you always, or you never is likely to have a destructive effect”. Phrases that trigger conflict in a relationship are what’s wrong with you, I’m sorry if…, what are you getting so upset, and I always do everything you never help me out. I’ve been married for 20 years and according to the text book research, women criticize more than men do in marital conflict. However I recognized that these words and phrases are in the center of my relational dialoguing. Through personal observation, at the times of disagreements that led to conflict, unconsciously my words and phrases were toxic. Instead of using toxic or destructive words in my conversations I will replicate through practice constructive complaints.
2. The Importance …show more content…
Cultural Filters
In reading the Lens Model of Conflict, it deals with self, others, and relationship. There was a decision involving our daughter, Alexis. Tommy said that we would represent our family at my grandmother’s funeral, but I decided to make arrangements for our daughter to come home. This caused a division in our communication.
2. Positive Views of Conflict
We, husband and wife, had differences of opinions when it came to raising our children because one parent was raised in a dual parent home and the other was raised in a single parent home. In spite of the differences, we were able to make decisions on the disciplinary process and education of our children. This helped them to become well rounded and productive citizens of society.
3. Conflict Is a Game
In playing a game of horse with my wife and daughter, it became apparent that they were not going to win, because the better player was going to give them the challenge of their life. The best player would dribble the ball all over the court, while the other players would chase him becoming tired and exhausted. In the end, the best player would win, leaving the other players defeated and