Marriages go through many problems in the life time of the spouses. But in my opinion, I think that infidelity causes the worst heartache and devastation. The issue of infidelity seems to totally undermine the very foundations of what the marriage is built on.
Infidelity might not be easy to define. This is probably because what might be considered as infidelity will vary from one couple to another. For instance, some couple might define infidelity in the context of emotional connection while others infidelity must be sexual in nature. Therefore, each individual in the couple will have to define what constitutes infidelity for them.
Generally speaking though, Psychology today defines Infidelity as “breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner”. It went on to say that this said assurance may come in different ways, from wedding vows sanctified by the state to confidentially expressed unwritten promises between lovers. (Pittman, 2012)
Lusterman in his write-up said …show more content…
(Shirley P. Glass, 2003). She claims that this type of affair can be likened to a snare that has been woven by intertwining strands of affection, shared experiences, and sexual pleasure. It is therefore not hard to see why these type of affairs are the ones that are most disruptive to marriage. (Shirley P. Glass, 2003).
“Secrets and lies are part of the fiber of affairs”. (Sori, 2007). Sori points out that the stability of the marital relationship and the family can be disorienting with the lies that accompany sexual affairs. Both the children and the spouse that are affected by an affair will find it difficult to trust those that are close to them. Some parents might even choose to share the secret with a child. These is usually most harmful to a child when he is told not to divulge the secret to anyone