Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that can have patience can have what he will.” In order for a person to get something he or she wants, he or she must be patient, and do what shall be done before chasing instant gratification. Instant gratification is the desire to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay. It is, by definition, an urge to achieve something without the process of thinking it through or further analyzing the situation. Instant gratification leads to compulsive decision making, which comes with a higher risk of making the wrong choice. Unfortunately for Romeo, the main character in Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, Benjamin Franklin wasn’t alive to tell him that. In the story of Romeo and Juliet, Romeo was anything but
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They made no prior effort to really get to know each other, and didn’t even get to the point of sharing their full names before making the big move. This is highly significant, because if they had waited a little bit longer they could have realized that they come from rival families, and possibly try to figure out this whole situation in a better, smarter manner. Instead, they met again at Juliet’s balcony, and once again--rather than try to get to know each other and seeing if they really are right for each other--they came to a conclusion, get married the next day by Friar Lawrence, “Come, come with me, and we will make short work. For, by your leaves, you shall not stay alone. Till holy church incorporate two in one.” -Friar Lawrence (2.6.35-37). This decision is highly problematic, as Juliet is supposed to marry Paris a few days later, not Romeo. However, their immaturity and experience means that they have no idea what they are doing, and that they are going into marriage without really even knowing the other person at all. Judging by the way Romeo talks about Juliet, “Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night.”- Romeo (1.5.42-51) there’s no denying that Romeo shows strong affection towards her physical appearance, and is far from an analytical state of mind. He surrendered himself to deep attraction, and his surrender ultimately led him to a weakened sense of judgement. To further back this hypothesis, a study from Leiden University and the University of Maryland shows that “People who are in love are less able to focus and to perform tasks that require attention.” (Henk Steenbergen, Sandra J. E. Langeslag, Guido P. H. Band, Bernhard Hommel. Reduced cognitive control in passionate lovers. Motivation and Emotion, 2013) The ability to wait and be patient requires plenty of attention from Romeo’s already
They made no prior effort to really get to know each other, and didn’t even get to the point of sharing their full names before making the big move. This is highly significant, because if they had waited a little bit longer they could have realized that they come from rival families, and possibly try to figure out this whole situation in a better, smarter manner. Instead, they met again at Juliet’s balcony, and once again--rather than try to get to know each other and seeing if they really are right for each other--they came to a conclusion, get married the next day by Friar Lawrence, “Come, come with me, and we will make short work. For, by your leaves, you shall not stay alone. Till holy church incorporate two in one.” -Friar Lawrence (2.6.35-37). This decision is highly problematic, as Juliet is supposed to marry Paris a few days later, not Romeo. However, their immaturity and experience means that they have no idea what they are doing, and that they are going into marriage without really even knowing the other person at all. Judging by the way Romeo talks about Juliet, “Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night.”- Romeo (1.5.42-51) there’s no denying that Romeo shows strong affection towards her physical appearance, and is far from an analytical state of mind. He surrendered himself to deep attraction, and his surrender ultimately led him to a weakened sense of judgement. To further back this hypothesis, a study from Leiden University and the University of Maryland shows that “People who are in love are less able to focus and to perform tasks that require attention.” (Henk Steenbergen, Sandra J. E. Langeslag, Guido P. H. Band, Bernhard Hommel. Reduced cognitive control in passionate lovers. Motivation and Emotion, 2013) The ability to wait and be patient requires plenty of attention from Romeo’s already