Compare And Contrast Where Are You Going Where Have You Been And Once Upon A Time

Jessmin Marie Gaerlan
Engl 1B – Tomb
Compare and Contrast Essay The two stories I have decided to compare and contrast from one another were Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been? by Joyce Carol Oates, and Once Upon a Time by Nadine Gordimer. I do not support the parenting styles of Connie’s parents in Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been? nor of the parents mentioned in Once Upon a Time. I have found that discouraging children through words, having a lack of communication and effort in the relationship, and thinking you are protecting your child by sheltering them from knowledge of the real world are unhealthy choices when it comes to parenting your child. I believe the way a child goes about the world starts with the environment and
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This is an example of how parents should not make their children feel. I have been in Connie’s shoes many times before and resented my parents for making me feel totally low about myself, even suicidal. I believe parents have a huge responsibility when it comes to how good or bad their children think and feel about themselves. Parents should fill their children up with words that are encouraging and make them feel like they can trust and rely on their parents for anything. The last thing they should feel is like they cannot go to their parents because they are afraid of being judged or put down. A good parent can still be a good parent when disciplining their kids with words. The only difference from Connie’s mom and what a good parent would do is that they would listen and be more cautious of the words they choose to say to prevent discouraging their child’s …show more content…
In the last paragraph he states, “…the mother read the little boy to sleep with a fairy story from the book the wise old witch had given him at Christmas. Next day he pretended to be the Prince who braves the terrible thicket of thorns to enter the palace and kiss the Sleeping Beauty back to life: he dragged a ladder to the wall, the shining coiled tunnels was just wide enough for his body to creep in, and with the first fixing of its razor-teeth in his knees and hands and head he screamed and struggled deeper into its tangle” (114). This is a perfect example of overprotecting your child from knowledge of the real world that has gone wrong. The parents were so caught up in trying to keep their own people safe that they did not consider that the little boy would not know the difference between danger and safety. The child was never taught that things can go wrong. In his mind, he only believed that everything was good and nothing bad could ever happen; he did not know about the truth of the world or the realities of life. I believe it was the parents’ fault as to what happened to the little boy at the end. Children are naïve; they are not aware of the things that go on or the bad things that could happen to them, which is where the parents come in to teach them. Knowledge is power and what you allow your child to

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