Understand The Difference Between Hearing And Engaged Listening

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“Communication with others” sounds so simple. Unfortunately, too often when we try to communicate we get lost in translation. We say one thing, but our interlocutor hears something else what can cause misunderstandings, and conflicts.
Whether we are trying to improve communication with our close people, we can improve the communication skills that enable us to effectively connect with others, understand better and listen carefully. Nothing, but understanding can be the most important between people. Even your spouse can move away from you, or take a distance because of the misunderstood and vagueness.
I can say, that communication is more than just exchanging some information. It 's about understanding the emotion and implicit signals and sighs behind the information.
More than just the words you use, effective communication combines a set of skills including verbal and nonverbal communication, engaged listening, responding,
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I’ve read it maybe twice and have opened for myself a big difference between listening and hearing. My spouse often asks me “Did you hear me?” “Of course, I did”, I answer. I can even repeat everything she said. She goes sad. Why? I think about my job, my routine, bank accounts, but I hear what she say. Step by step, and chapter by chapter, I started to understand the difference between hearing and listening on this very private family level.
When you really listen, you’ll hear intonations of voice that tell you how that person is feeling. When you are an engaged listener, you can make that person feel heard and understood, which is priceless sometimes, and obviously can help build a stronger, deeper connection between you.
People often concentrate on what they have to say, but what is more important for effective communication is about listening. Listening well means not just understanding the words or the information, but understanding the emotions the speaker is trying to

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