Communication climate is the emotional tone of a relationship (Adler and Proctor II, 346). In other words, communication climate can either be positive or negative depending on how the person is treated. Significant others, or people whose opinions we value play an important role in this. For instance, if a person’s significant other such as their parents create a negative communication climate, that person might have difficulties when it comes to communicating with their parents. This will cause the person to feel less valued, have lower self esteem, and increase levels of stress (Adler and Proctor, 346). The communication climate I had with my mom during the week of Thanksgiving is similar to this example. Our various interactions leans more
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During this cleaning process, my mom was in charge of cleaning our living room downstairs as well as the laundry room. Meanwhile my dad cleaned the garage and the other living room area near our garage. My brother’s job was to vacuum the entire house, and I was in charge of cleaning the kitchen and bathroom my sister and I shared. Out of my entire family, I noticed that my younger sister was the only one who did not participate in cleaning. For this reason, I gave her one job which was to change the garbage in each of the rooms including the bathrooms. She immediately refused and started giving me an attitude, which angered me because the job I assigned her was the simplest out of everyone. We ended up engaging in a very loud argument, which caused my mom to intervene. Rather than resolve the conflict, my mom added fuel to this argument by defending my sister. This ended up changing the conflict towards her, and because I rarely engage in a confrontal argument, all of the negativity I kept inside of me exploded. I immediately told her that she constantly defends my siblings, and that she doesn’t care about me at all. Her goal was to stop the argument, but my goal was for her to treat me the same as how she treats my siblings. I also complained at how her attention was focused more towards my siblings, which was unfair because I depend on her to provide me affection and support. Conflict style is defined as how a person handles conflict (Adler and Proctor II, 383). The five types of conflict styles are competing, collaborating, avoiding, accommodating, and compromising. Competing was the main conflict style used during this argument with my mom. Often I partake in avoiding and accommodating but because I was tired of engaging in the same argument, I became more competitive. I wanted to be right, therefore I exhibited direct and passive aggression. I attacked her character by stating that
During this cleaning process, my mom was in charge of cleaning our living room downstairs as well as the laundry room. Meanwhile my dad cleaned the garage and the other living room area near our garage. My brother’s job was to vacuum the entire house, and I was in charge of cleaning the kitchen and bathroom my sister and I shared. Out of my entire family, I noticed that my younger sister was the only one who did not participate in cleaning. For this reason, I gave her one job which was to change the garbage in each of the rooms including the bathrooms. She immediately refused and started giving me an attitude, which angered me because the job I assigned her was the simplest out of everyone. We ended up engaging in a very loud argument, which caused my mom to intervene. Rather than resolve the conflict, my mom added fuel to this argument by defending my sister. This ended up changing the conflict towards her, and because I rarely engage in a confrontal argument, all of the negativity I kept inside of me exploded. I immediately told her that she constantly defends my siblings, and that she doesn’t care about me at all. Her goal was to stop the argument, but my goal was for her to treat me the same as how she treats my siblings. I also complained at how her attention was focused more towards my siblings, which was unfair because I depend on her to provide me affection and support. Conflict style is defined as how a person handles conflict (Adler and Proctor II, 383). The five types of conflict styles are competing, collaborating, avoiding, accommodating, and compromising. Competing was the main conflict style used during this argument with my mom. Often I partake in avoiding and accommodating but because I was tired of engaging in the same argument, I became more competitive. I wanted to be right, therefore I exhibited direct and passive aggression. I attacked her character by stating that